When I set out this year, I came up with my Core Desired Feelings…the ways I wanted to feel as often as possible, so I could prioritize activities that made me feel those ways in my schedule. It’s definitely a different sort of planning. But I only choose 3 to 5 words, because more than…
We all have negative and positive personality traits, but some of our negative traits can directly, and seriously, impact our ability to be successful submissives. It’s not so much having the traits that is the problem (any of us can work to lessen the ill affects of our personality flaws), rather it is the unwillingness…
For many of us, setting goals and making plans is the foundation of hope. And hope is the thing with feathers, yes? Hope is made up of our dreams…and a dream deferred is…well…sometimes necessary (given our current circumstances) and sometimes a way of subconsciously sabotaging our hope. Expect Slip-ups As we begin this new year,…
A wish isn’t enough. Neither is an intention. Those are weak, too easy to forget. No. I’m making a promise. I crave the perfect balance between naughty and nice in our sex life: fucking and making love, kink and romance, petting and spanking. But, it’s hard to know when I’ll crave what. That’s what drives…
Theme for 2020: Mindfulness I’ve got a lot of big plans for the blog this year, but it all boils down to the way I really want to feel and my personal priorities. I want to feel mindful, present, and connected, rather than my normal “distracted, distant, and disconnected.” I want to feel sensual, inspired,…
When I was very young and figured out that certain places felt good when touched, the only tool I had at my disposal was my own body. I used my hands to explore and touch and rub and pinch, becoming quite adept, by my early teens, at inducing a clitoral orgasm by simply rubbing my…