I like to spend my days off a number of ways, but the best ones are lazy, slow, and late. Sleeping in, taking coffee and reading or writing, maybe outside if the sun is shining and the air is warm. Showering late, after mid-morning sex that doesn’t require me to bite my tongue and be silent. Having a fine meal in the early evening. Basically, I like a day where nothing is required of me, where the agenda is clear, and I can breathe and relax into the time, letting it spread slowly. I also like days off with shopping plans, spa plans, traveling plans, or doing something fun with…