That’s what it’s about, really. Submission may provide me with quite a bit (freedom, well-being, structure, protection and care), but what have I done for Him lately? Well, I don’t expect a standing ovation, but I did initiate sex a few days ago (very unlike me). But mainly this month, I have very subtly been…
I realized that while I was in control, I was unhappy. I didn’t like being a nag. I didn’t want to have to make all the decisions in a relationship, but I did want a voice. I wanted to feel cared for and respected. I also needed to be vulnerable. –Luna Caruthers I struggle with…
I know submission is supposed to be about giving and serving, but I think it is important to reflect on what you, as the submissive, get from it, both in the beginning, and periodically, just to update and ensure that it is still fulfilling for you. Because that IS important. I’d say, the first step…
I’m not a natural submissive. While I am more submissive than I am dominant, and I do like the power dynamic of Him being in charge and me following, I can honestly say it does not come naturally to me. I have to work at it. I used to feel guilty about that…like I was…
I’ve done it before…and it didn’t have much of an impact, but I’m trying it again, years later, and I’m hoping for a different outcome (is this the definition of insanity? doing the same thing over and over again hoping for different results?). Yesterday, I went to the gynecologist suggested by our sex therapist, who…
Side note: I time block using Google Calendar to plan my days and weeks out in advance, making sure I’ve made room for all the things I have to do and as many of the things I want to do as possible. Something new I am trying this year is to delete activities/events on my…
Find a notebook, any notebook, and open to the first page. Or, open up a new blank document on your computer. That, my friends, is the door to an adventure. In fact, any new beginning is the start to a potential adventure. I love the meme I’ve used for my feature image in this post,…
D/s can be role play. Don’t get me wrong. Playing out a scene where someone is the Dominant party (like the professor) who ties up or spanks the submissive party (like the naughty student) can be perfectly satisfying. And there is nothing wrong with D/s being an occasional part of your sexual repertoire. But D/s can…
So I’ve been trying to improve my active submission this week. I’ve been lighting a candle when I get home in an effort to transition my brain from work day to home life (and, in effect, my role as sub). I’ll continue to hone this transitional ritual. After reflecting on my submissive identity, I also…
There are many ways of being submissive, and the only thing that makes one more right or true than another is that it works for you and the person(s) with whom you share it. That being said, I often struggle with my own submission. It doesn’t always come easily. I can be contrary and moody, even downright disrespectful at times.…