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A much needed break and new set of routines
It’s been a few days, but I clearly needed a break after the A-Z Challenge. Plus it’s finals week for me…and Mother’s Day weekend. So, I’ve been reconsidering my routines and daily rituals to keep myself from losing it. I seem to need to revisit this task every season, it seems, as life changes. Now that Mr. D is back to shift work, small adjustments are in order. *** In his book The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz writes in his chapter on the Fourth Agreement (“Always do your best”): “ I make everything a ritual, and I always do my best. Taking a shower is a ritual for me,…
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Mental Switch – releasing control and managing focus as a submissive
I realized that while I was in control, I was unhappy. I didn’t like being a nag. I didn’t want to have to make all the decisions in a relationship, but I did want a voice. I wanted to feel cared for and respected. I also needed to be vulnerable. –Luna Caruthers I struggle with control. In my daily life, I often find myself fighting to maintain it (of myself and over others). And while I often see it as a necessary part of what I do at work, it exhausts me. It’s difficult to let go of that need to control things, though. Like when you are stuck in…
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How I Plan My Goals & Schedule in 6 Steps
I never like to presume that I know how to do something better than someone else. What works for me isn’t always what will work for you. But, I’ve had a few twitter DMs and emails that have me thinking that this post might be necessary and valuable for some. My Resources: First, you need to know the resources I have accessed over the years to gain the background knowledge that I use for my process. I’ve read a lot of books on this topic, and these are the ones that I have consistently relied upon. I prefer audiobooks for this because…well…I don’t have a lot of time, and Iike…
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In Need of Ritual
I’ve been pretty off my game lately. The move, going back to work…all of it has had me back-asswards and stressed out. And it has definitely, just like Mr. D suspected it would, gotten me off my D/s game and squashed my sex drive. This weekend, Mr. D woke me up in the dead of night for some much needed sexual activity. My body responded immediately, which is surprising – both because my libido had been lacking and because I’m not usually keen on being woken up. I was immediately ready to be fucked. But, He didn’t fuck me. He put my hand on His cock, told me to play…
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Train Jumping
Sometimes it’s hard to motivate myself to start things, but once I’m on the productivity train, it’s hard to derail me. I get moving in a particular direction and just keep going until I hit my destination. The problem with this is I have several trains running at one time in my life, and I can’t really be on more than one at a time. So the only way to keep things going smoothly in my life is learning to jump from train to train without killing myself. People talk about work/life balance. But I honestly think there is no such thing as true balance – and trying to achieve…
