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The Spoon (a tale of forgone punishment)
So I hate punishment. I’ve written about it before…the fact that I hate it, juxtaposed against the fact that I feel it can be necessary, anyway, in a D/s dynamic…and how my theoretical understanding of it never seems to match up to reality when I’m faced with it out of the blue. Here are a few earlier posts about it, because I don’t really feel a need to rehash things, since my feelings and opinions regarding punishment haven’t changed any: Discipline, Punishment, and Correction in a D/s Relationship 24/7 D/s (Weaknesses & First Punishment) Punishment’s Emerging Role in our Relationship So, why write about it again? Because I freaked out about…
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The Mark of Pain
The Theory of (Pain) Relativity I’m fairly new to “enjoying” pain. And I say that with a bit of a grimace, because I’m not sure I’d really call it “enjoyment” quite yet. But there is something appealing about it…something that keeps me coming back, at least periodically, to the thought of it. I’ve even requested spankings a few times, and while I wouldn’t call the feeling “enjoyment” quite yet (or ever?), I would call it cathartic…freeing…unwinding. I suppose there’s real science to back what I’m feeling. The adrenaline rush…the endorphin release. But it doesn’t always feel good…and it doesn’t always help me relax. Which means there’s an element of mindset…
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Journal: (a rule that isn’t enforced isn’t a rule)
A few weeks ago it was a forgotten “no panties” Friday. Last week it was two forgotten receipts. These are things I’m supposed to do, per our D/s agreement. And, per our D/s agreement, if I don’t, He’s supposed to do something about it. Recently, the punishments have involved a wooden spoon with holes in it. It stings like a bitch. Yesterday, I noticed my gas gauge was lower than 1/2 (another of His requirements is that I keep it about half, as I am very guilty of letting it get too close to empty…I realize this is an issue of safety, and that having a full tank may be necessary in…
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Punishment’s Emerging Role in our Relationship
Friday: It’s been awhile since my Husband actually held me accountable to the rules we agreed upon back in April. As expected, when He doesn’t hold me accountable, I slip. And after slipping a few times, I just stop caring altogether. It’s like any other habit, really. If no one is watching and no one gives a crap if I do something, I pretty much stop doing that thing. But, last Friday night, while we were hanging out on the couch, he noticed that I was wearing slip shorts under my dress. “What day is it?” He asked. And His eyes said it all, flitting back and forth between my…
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24/7 D/s (Weaknesses & First Punishment)
This post is #24 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. I’ve always pretty much been submissive to my Husband. From the beginning, though, I’ll admit it was sometimes difficult to let go of control, especially since I had lived on my own for some time and hadn’t really had very dominant lovers before Him. I craved it though, even if it was only subconscious. But rather than submitting (since I didn’t really realize that’s what I needed)…to a good Dominant…as would have been healthy…I lost myself to men, trying desperately to push…
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Discipline, Punishment, and Correction in a D/s Relationship
This post is #5 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. The first question posited in today’s 30 Days of D/s prompt is: As a submissive, are you willing to allow a Dominant to discipline or punish you in your relationship? I find the question interesting, because I’d like to point out the word “allow.” I think that word is extremely important. Let me take a bit of a tangent for a moment to explain why. Today, while I was driving around running errands, the DJ on the radio was talking about…
