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Curating Our Destinies through Good Time-Management
My yoga teacher shared this quote with us in class today, and it resonated with me enough that I thought I’d use it to help me respond to Marie’s Wicked Wednesday prompt regarding time-management. Not long ago, I’ve written several posts on planning, goals, and time-management over the past few weeks, and I do spend a lot of time researching what others have to say on the subject, trying hard to use my time in the most effective ways, set priorities, and plan and achieve all the right goals. It can be overwhelming, trying to keep up with everything I feel I’m supposed to be accomplishing. But I wanted to…
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You’re not alone…
Just this morning, I read a post by kisungura at mycontrolledascent.com that really struck a chord because it hit so close to home. The post is mainly about how she and her husband both give too much to their work and their children, leaving little to nothing left for each other…too often…to the point that they have lost touch with their marriage enough to have given up their D/s relationship. Because of it, she’s flailing and lost. It’s a common theme, really…giving all we’ve got to the world outside, taking our loved ones for granted, assuming they’ll always be there…until they aren’t. I’ve been guilty of this far more often…
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Irony
For years I have waded through life and marriage like I would live forever and would eventually get to the things that mattered. I’ve often focused on all the wrong things…all the things that didn’t matter much, if at all – things like making the house neat and checking off all of the crap on my to do list. And to make it shittier, all of that poorly focused energy made me irritable and crabby and tired. I took a lot on myself, because I’m a control freak. And then I’d be bitter and angry that I had to do everything. I was stressed out…and pissed off. In many ways,…
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I’m tired of looking back
I’ve come to notice that I spend a lot of time looking back and planning forward, when what I ought to be doing most is living in the present. Over the past several weeks, as I’ve redesigned my blog, I have found myself falling into my old tendencies, drawing from past hurts and reviewing what didn’t work in my marriage. I want to be honest, and I know that backstory is important when creating a narrative. But, I’m tired of digging through the past. What I have noticed is that I tend to write when I am confused, angry, hurt, afraid, depressed, and sad. I use my writing to find…
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First kisses of 2018
So yesterday was the first day of 2018. I spent most of it simply getting all of my ducks in a row, as you can see by all of my blog posts yesterday and the little (but time-consuming) changes to my design and content. I did make sure to give Mr. D a very intimate good morning kiss (long and deep), make him coffee, and avoid nagging him to do chores all day. I asked him a few times if there was anything I could do or get for him, while he relaxed and enjoyed his final day of vacation playing video games. I practiced patience and kindness and thoughtfulness…since…
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“Fuck, Blog, Run” – My goals for 2018
I’ve read a fair amount of self-help literature that focuses on writing a VISION for your life…where you want to be…WHO you want to be…WHOM you want to be with…why…how…etc., etc., etc. And, much like visualization and guided imagery, I do truly believe that this is something that can manifest what we want most in our lives. Creating a vision begins with considering priorities and goals. I am trying to keep my priorities simple and focused and my goals specific and achievable. Priority #1 – I WANT AN *AWESOME* MARRIAGE: My ONE THING = FUCK — I want very much for my marriage to get back on track…which means, first…my…
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When the dark gives way to the growing light
Several months ago, in a marriage counseling session, the counselor said something that resonated enough with me that I still remember it today. It was along the lines of, “Partnerships like marriage are meant to help you grow and change into a better person. The fact that it isn’t as easy to leave is what keeps you there during the hard times, but the work you put in to stay and develop is what curves your edges and builds you up.” Now I’m sure anyone could say the exact opposite and make it sound just as likely. After all, keeping marriages afloat is this woman’s bread and butter. I chose…
