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Porn in the shower
I don’t watch porn very often, but I found myself questioning why that is yesterday, after seeing the prompt for “4 Thoughts or Fiction.” In fact, my brain went down a bit of a rabbit hole on the subject, following my go-to reflection questions: who, what, where, when, why, and how? Why and When So, why do I watch porn? I usually watch it when I’m already turned on. Porn, for me takes away the thought…it does the thinking for me, providing images, and sometimes sound to fill my brain while I fuck myself. It can also be the impetus when I’m not already turned on and need a quick…
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What I hate about porn
I was astonished by the sheer size of his cock as he walked toward her. Even flaccid, it reached his mid-thigh, bouncing between his legs as he moved…back and forth…hypnotizing me. I couldn’t help but giggle and asked, “Trent…is that for real?” “Yeah, this dude’s known for it. He’s like the new Ron Jeremy,” he responded, eyes glued to the screen, just as interested in what would happen next as I was. The woman’s gigantic breasts rode too high on her chest, obviously fake. They were perfectly round, like cantaloupes, and looked about as firm, the nipples dark pink against her spray-tanned skin and very erect. “They’re a perfect match,…
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Why does porn suck?
(conversations and thoughts surrounding chapters 4 and 5 The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn) Hmmmm…answers to this question are varied and numerous. The actors, the lighting, the sound, the film quality, the shoddy sets, the camera angles, the music, the formulaic story lines, the absence of plot, a stupid plot, ugly men, skinny women, fake boobs, bored expressions…you name it. And…for all this suck….there’s a very high price. I personally don’t rent or buy porn very often. I’m too likely to be disappointed, not only with the film, but also with the lightness of my wallet after buying/renting it. Violet Blue suggests that we look for films that have won…
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The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn…ch. 3
“I was a porn virgin” I remember the first time I saw actual porn. I was rooting around in the linen closet for a beach towel. Since they were the biggest ones, used the least, they were on the bottom. So, I pulled from the bottom of the stack, trying hard to avoid knocking the whole terry cloth tower over when, lo and behold, a collection of magazines fell at my feet. I must’ve been around 9 or 10. Of course, I knew they belonged to my father. And I wondered briefly, even at that young age, why on earth he was stupid enough to keep them in a place…
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The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn…ch.2
Favorite quotes from this chapter: “Like Hollywood stars, porn stars are overblown caricatures of contemporary culture’s ideals and inhabit a tiny end of the gene pool. The actors are all very limber, and can withstand extended periods of sex in difficult positions under hot lights. They shave their balls, wax their asses, and sometimes wear makeup on virtually every inch of their bodies…and still perform.” “…I think that precisely because it’s so far away from reality, most of the industry’s purported “ideal” that stars embody isn’t what actually turns most of us on.” (Maybe this is why so many women have so much trouble finding porn we like; I think…
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The Smart Girls Guide to Porn…
Chapter One: “What a Smart Girl Wants” Okay, a few days ago, I did a post inspired by the introduction of this book by Violet Blue (see my links for her site). Then, I promptly read the 1st chapter and began to mull over the issues and ideas she presents. I will first say that the book itself does not hold much “new” information for me yet. Nor is it written with any particularly astounding style or craft, but I did appreciate a few points that have been made so far: 1) Women watch, enjoy, and want more from their porn. 2) Desire, for women, is NOT all in our…
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Smart Girls and Sex
So what do smart girls want? Unfortunately, a lot of girls, smart ones included, have little clue. But that isn’t a surprise; not a lot of stock has been put into what women really want (sexually speaking) in mainstream media…or even porn. Sure, there was the sexual revolution…but that just put the message out there that having sex was healthy and fun. And yes, there’s been The Joy of Sex and Dr. Ruth and romance novels out the wazoo (which is a whole weird culture that I didn’t think I understood until now – but I’ll get to that in a moment). But there hasn’t been a completely open sexual…