“I was a porn virgin” I remember the first time I saw actual porn.  I was rooting around in the linen closet for a beach towel.  Since they were the biggest ones, used the least, they were on the bottom.  So, I pulled from the bottom of the stack, trying hard to avoid knocking the whole terry cloth tower over when, lo and behold, a collection of magazines fell at my feet. I must’ve been around 9 or 10.  Of course, I knew they belonged to my father.  And I wondered briefly, even at that young age, why on earth he was stupid enough to keep them in a place…

Favorite quotes from this chapter: “Like Hollywood stars, porn stars are overblown caricatures of contemporary culture’s ideals and inhabit a tiny end of the gene pool.  The actors are all very limber, and can withstand extended periods of sex in difficult positions under hot lights.  They shave their balls, wax their asses, and sometimes wear makeup on virtually every inch of their bodies…and still perform.” “…I think that precisely because it’s so far away from reality, most of the industry’s purported “ideal” that stars embody isn’t what actually turns most of us on.”  (Maybe this is why so many women have so much trouble finding porn we like; I think…

Chapter One:  “What a Smart Girl Wants” Okay, a few days ago, I did a post inspired by the introduction of this book by Violet Blue (see my links for her site).  Then, I promptly read the 1st chapter and began to mull over the issues and ideas she presents. I will first say that the book itself does not hold much “new” information for me yet.  Nor is it written with any particularly astounding style or craft, but I did appreciate a few points that have been made so far: 1)  Women watch, enjoy, and want more from their porn. 2)  Desire, for women, is NOT all in our…