• Experience,  My EJC Responses

    The precipice…

    Big deep breath in… This post may go everywhere, and I’m going to let it. *** Awhile back, I considered writing a post called, “What my cats have taught me about polyamory.” The idea was that, I have two cats, whom I love dearly…but they hate each other. I am constantly telling them (yes, I talk to them) that I love them both equally, and I can’t understand why they won’t see that. But, their jealousy remains, green between us. The funny thing is, one will burrow under a blanket and snuggle up next to me, while the other sits on my lap. They both know the other is there,…

  • Experience,  February Photofest 2021,  My EJC Responses

    TGIF

    Happy Friday! And, of course, Happy #boobday! Like many people, I see Fridays as a special day , something to look forward to and celebrate each week. It’s a small celebration…making it through another week to the weekend. It isn’t because I don’t like my work; I do, very much most days. But it takes a lot out of me, so the prospect of a few days to sleep in and relax more than usual is a blessing. My mind, body, and soul crave the weekend. Fridays are also good because it’s the day I socialize with friends. In normal times, it’s drinks at a local pub after work. Now,…

  • Experience

    Getting past the blank page

    I have to admit, sometimes looking at this blank screen is terrifying. Especially after a respite. But, I’m going to type some words, and then follow those with a few more words and hope for the best. As you have always done, I know you will understand and welcome me back with open arms no matter how meandering and stream-of-consciousness my thoughts become. My work for the year came to an end last week, and I think my body basically just threw up its hands and said you’re gonna rest, bitch…even if I have to make you. So, naturally, I got sick the weekend before my final two days of work…

  • Experience

    Facing Fears to Invite Possibility

    This week’s Food for Thought Friday prompt is: This week’s Prompt ~ Room 101 When we realised it was week 101 we knew this would be our only opportunity to use Room 101 as the source for our questions. Room 101 first appeared in the book 1984 by George Orwell. It’s an extremely insightful novel. The room was said to contain a person’s greatest fear. The popular TV show of the same name asked people to consign their pet hates to Room 101. With this in mind what we want to know is… What are your main hates and/or fears – sex wise or other – that you would like banished from your…

  • Experience,  My EJC Responses

    Processing Emotions about Polyamory

    I’m having a lot of feels today. And rather than stuffing them down as I normally do when it comes to this, because I’m afraid of causing problems or being seen as too emotional or reactionary, I’m going to process it (quickly – which is not my normal manner)…to avoid causing bigger problems later. Yesterday, Mr. D was down. Very down. He hung out in bed for some time, but I didn’t want to force Him to have a conversation He wasn’t ready to have. Besides, if it was depression rearing it’s unwanted little head, I knew He might be telling me the truth when I He told me He…

  • Experience,  Opinion

    Monogamy

    So I had a bad weekend. My mood dropped dramatically, and I found myself fighting to stay afloat in my head. I’ll be okay…don’t worry. I have times like this. Depression never fully goes away, and I often feel like I’m just a few steps ahead of the demon. Both Mr. D and I deal with it, so we take care of each other when the monsters come to call. That’s one of the things I love most about my marriage. How we take care of each other. But that’s not what I want to write about today. What I want to write about is monogamy. Excuse the stream of…

  • Experience,  February Photofest 2018,  Photography

    True Colors

        We are all made of so many colors. There are days when I feel black…dark…a void of too many or not enough color. Other days, I feel neon or pastel or vibrantly primary. Mostly, I feel like a rainbow, a bit of every color joined to create a swirling mix of complexity. My marriage is similar. Some days it seems like a watercolor with too much water, washed out and tired, soaking the paper to soggy bits. Other days, it seems like fire, licking reds and oranges. Most often, it is a soft shade of gray or blue, comfortable and inviting. _________ Night before last, my husband and…

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