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It’s been a week…so far
Happy Friday! It’s #boobday! And it’s also time to catch up, since I’ve been away a bit this week. I’m very much a planner, probably to the point of being neurotic. And I get used to a set of routines to run my day by. When those routines change, it takes me some time to re-orient myself. The anxiety and stress run a bit higher during these times. This past week or two, I’ve been out of the blogging habit a bit, as I’ve been writing mainly in the mornings, and after the A-Z Challenge, I was a bit spent, as far as writing is concerned. I also finished a…
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A “good girl” is always available
He came home an entered my office, where I sat, brain mired in law books and legal cases, writing a paper for school. I looked up at Him, knowing He’d expect me to come in the other room and remove His boots, as is our nightly ritual, but I could see a deeper expectation in His expression. I wasn’t ready to fulfill it. My mind was on my work and I didn’t want to stop. He knows me well, and I’m sure He could see that stress was bubbling to the surface. Before I Had a chance to put up any resistance, like the terrible sub I was being, He…
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Emotional Health and Submission
Submission appeals to responsible, hard working and independent women, because it takes them to a world free from those pressures. Are submissive all hard working and independent? Have you found this statement to be true? Is submission a world without pressure? This morning, as I was doing my submissive reading/research, as I am wont to do on a weekend morning, I came across Lillith Avir’s prompt (above) and read a section of Luna K’s Submissive Journey, “Living as an emotionally healthy submissive.” I find some connections between these two sources, so I wanted to take a moment to reflect. First, I’ll respond to Lillith’s questions. I don’t believe all submissives…
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24/7 D/s = just our way of life
Lillith Avir’s No True Way’s most recent prompt struck a chord with me, and I’ve been carrying it around in my brain for the past several days, letting it roll it around and smooth its edges like a river rock. The quote she refers to in her prompts is “Real D/s dynamics are 24/7.” I’m assuming this to mean that “D/s dynamics are only real when they are 24/7,” and “Real D/s dynamics are always 24/7.” Basically, all of that is crap. Real is what you say is real, when it comes to your relationship, and finite terminology like always, never, and only are simply dangerous in any circumstance. Your relationship is…
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Putting in the work
As I’ve noted before, Mr. D and I have been going to a sex therapist/marriage counselor, Dr. Roger Libby, for a little while now. It began making a difference from the first day, because it was obvious how different he was from a regular marriage counselor. He gave us hope and immediately started guided us with actions to take rather than simply discussions of feelings or rehashing the past. We’re definitely a committed couple, for all our other relationship faults. And neither of us wants our relationship to fail. We moved past all the people we could live with and landed on the one we couldn’t live without, which is…
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What are your thoughts on PDA/kink in public?
I’m of two minds on this topic, moreso one than the other…so I’ll start with that one: I’ve never been one for affection in public. Not only does it make me uncomfortable to engage in it, but it also makes me uncomfortable to see it. I’m not talking little kisses and hugs…more like couples who make out and feel each other up on park benches, people who bring their kinks into public, and especially those people who feel it is their right to force their physicality on others. I believe my physical relationships are private, and I don’t like doing physical or sexual things in front of others (unless that…
