• Experience,  My EJC Responses

    Processing Emotions about Polyamory

    I’m having a lot of feels today. And rather than stuffing them down as I normally do when it comes to this, because I’m afraid of causing problems or being seen as too emotional or reactionary, I’m going to process it (quickly – which is not my normal manner)…to avoid causing bigger problems later. Yesterday, Mr. D was down. Very down. He hung out in bed for some time, but I didn’t want to force Him to have a conversation He wasn’t ready to have. Besides, if it was depression rearing it’s unwanted little head, I knew He might be telling me the truth when I He told me He…

  • Experience,  Opinion

    Monogamy

    So I had a bad weekend. My mood dropped dramatically, and I found myself fighting to stay afloat in my head. I’ll be okay…don’t worry. I have times like this. Depression never fully goes away, and I often feel like I’m just a few steps ahead of the demon. Both Mr. D and I deal with it, so we take care of each other when the monsters come to call. That’s one of the things I love most about my marriage. How we take care of each other. But that’s not what I want to write about today. What I want to write about is monogamy. Excuse the stream of…

  • Experience,  February Photofest 2018,  Photography

    True Colors

        We are all made of so many colors. There are days when I feel black…dark…a void of too many or not enough color. Other days, I feel neon or pastel or vibrantly primary. Mostly, I feel like a rainbow, a bit of every color joined to create a swirling mix of complexity. My marriage is similar. Some days it seems like a watercolor with too much water, washed out and tired, soaking the paper to soggy bits. Other days, it seems like fire, licking reds and oranges. Most often, it is a soft shade of gray or blue, comfortable and inviting. _________ Night before last, my husband and…

  • Experience,  Opinion

    Is Love a Social Construct and Marriage an Outdated Practice?

    I do all kinds of research as a result of this blog.  I read up on one thing, find reference to another, get the ADD, and then find myself mired in a topic I never expected to find interesting.  And sometimes it leads to whole worlds of consideration and connections.   Case in point…on TED, I ran into a conversation on “open marriages”.  There were some pretty heated comments, from both sides of the argument.   So, I started reading up on it.  As I searched, I was struck by the number of articles and websites devoted to the pros of open-marriage, and the lack of websites and articles against…

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