The longer I live this “low-libido” rollercoaster journey, the more I learn. And because I know there are people out there on the same frustrating path, I’d like to share a few insights from my field notes. Over the years, I’ve found that a few things work more than others, and much like any health…
I’ve done it before…and it didn’t have much of an impact, but I’m trying it again, years later, and I’m hoping for a different outcome (is this the definition of insanity? doing the same thing over and over again hoping for different results?). Yesterday, I went to the gynecologist suggested by our sex therapist, who…
(photo: maca root) Let’s see what the stats have to say (because we know those don’t lie, right?): How many times/days I masturbated in… January: 8 February: 6 March: 7 April: 11 May: 4 June: 13 (gee…quite the uptick) July: 7 so far… (headed for June-like numbers, people!) How many times we had sex in……
It’s likely to be a bit of a rambling hodge-podge today. Things are a bit of a swirling mess in my head, and I’m trying to find clarity. First off, I stopped doing Noom. Just over a month, and I gained 4 pounds on the program. Not really the direction I was trying to go,…
There are a million and one good ways to relax, but I must say that masturbation is one of my top ten. Here are my top three reasons… It Helps Me sleep I usually find myself seeking it out right when I go to bed. It takes me less than 5 minutes to climax (10…
Yesterday: 206 pounds, 6065 steps, alcohol 3, calories 1476, sleep 5 hours 31 minutes, 60 minutes yoga/30 minutes cardio, masturbation 0 6:21 p.m. Had a tough night. And now I’m ultra tired. OH decided to have a fall-apart last night right before bed, even though we’ve made a commitment to NOT have fall-aparts right before…
Last week, an article was presented to me that outlined the differences between motivation and momentum. In the article, it defined to the two concepts like this… Motivation is a feeling that you experience when you desire something, which has a tendency to ebb and flow. (What’s inspiring you to make changes right now?) Momentum…
I posted a tweet this morning that my libido is like a feral cat, but that I fed her from my hand this morning and I hoped she would be back for dinner (I do). It’s a fairly transparent metaphor, and it works pretty well, except for the fact that my “feral cat” can be…
Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are the 5 stages of loss, and I can say that I have definitely gone through all of these (I’m currently in stage 5) during #stayathome2020. In early March, I was very much in denial. I watched the news and was pretty sure it would all blow over. Our administration asked for superficial ways to…
When I was young, I was moody. Anxious…on my way to an ulcer before I graduated high school. I was internally driven and often ran myself into the ground during periods of great productivity and creativity (I still do this, much to my Husband’s chagrin). I also found myself doing rather rash and stupid things…