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Rituals & Routines
I am very much a creature of habit, routine and ritual. In fact, if I were a fantasy being, I’d likely be a Hobbit, comfortably snuggled up in my Hobbit hole with books and pets and food and wine. Because for me, “adventuring” is just not really a major life draw. Sure, I crave new experiences, social interaction, and from time to time I do get cabin fever (traveling at least once a year really is part of my life goal). But, for the most part, home is just where it’s at for me. That’s probably because I’m an introvert. Where I can (and do) deal successfully with people…
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Finding My Erotic Self through the Words of Anaïs Nïn
We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect. Anaïs Nïn I already knew that my body could feel things. I’d found myself aroused by words, furiously and guardedly reading late at night beneath the covers. I’d seen things that made parts of me twitch and pulse in response. But I didn’t really understand myself as an erotic being until I rented a film at a tiny video store in a sleepy college town. It wasn’t a new film. I found it buried in the “Drama” section next to all the other literary-themed films I loved so much…Howard’s End, Dangerous Liaisons, The Wings of the Dove, Jude… It was Henry…
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The “Crazy” Cycle
This week’s Erotic Journal Challenge Prompt is “Hormones,” but as I find, for me, that this is also very tied to next week’s topic “Mental Health,” I’m going to go ahead and connect the two. I’ve already posted on both of these topics quite a few times, but I want to focus in on their direct relation to my current sense of sexuality, erotic well-being, and sexual relationship. I guess all of us have issues with hormones as some point in our life. And I know that quite a few of us struggle with various mental health issues (or combinations of several). When you put hormones and mental health issues…
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Facing Fears to Invite Possibility
This week’s Food for Thought Friday prompt is: This week’s Prompt ~ Room 101 When we realised it was week 101 we knew this would be our only opportunity to use Room 101 as the source for our questions. Room 101 first appeared in the book 1984 by George Orwell. It’s an extremely insightful novel. The room was said to contain a person’s greatest fear. The popular TV show of the same name asked people to consign their pet hates to Room 101. With this in mind what we want to know is… What are your main hates and/or fears – sex wise or other – that you would like banished from your…
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Pretty in Pink
This week, Food For Thought Friday asks us: What are your motivations for taking sexy photos? In some ways, I guess I’m a bit of an exhibitionist (online, that is). I like to be seen as sexy and I appreciate the attention that comes with it, when it’s in a controlled atmosphere (like my website). In real life, I have difficulty even taking a compliment. I’m not nearly as confident as I probably should be, but over the years, photographing myself and sharing photos has definitely improved my self-esteem. I also take sexy photos for my Husband on a regular basis and send them via text or email. My motivation…
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My Aphrodisiac – 4 of My Favorite Erotic Films
The world is spinning with potential aphrodisiacs – tastes, smells, sounds, sights, and physical sensations all compounding to bring us to our knees in a desirous puddle. For all of us, there are different combinations that tend to do the trick. For me, I look for lush sensualism. It might mean a beautifully erotic film. Or a rich red wine and a carefully crafted meal. Candlelight. Soft jazz, maybe. Warmth. A massage. Dancing. A poetry reading. A play. Things that move me passionately (like literature, poetry, theater, music) in tandem with conversation, food, and alcohol almost always put me in a position where I am more open to sex and…
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Pandora’s Box: A History of Experimentation, Fear, and Insecurity
It is hard to explain why I would still feel fear in a safe and solid relationship. My sexual insecurities, irrational fears, and difficulty being vulnerable have caused more trouble than I can possibly ever explain. But, I’ll give it a go. The beginning… When I first met Mr. D, we had a rather (what I thought at the time) wild sex life. I met him through a local online dating service that no longer exists. We were the only people on the site under 40 without children, and so, while neither of us felt the other was “ideal,” we began emailing back and forth and then talking on the…
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F4TF “Touch”
How do you like to be touched? In general, I don’t like to be touched. In public, I have a huge bubble, with strangers…and even with friends. I am not a “hugger,” and I don’t touch others very often, either. But with my lover, I like to be touched in all sorts of ways. I like to snuggle up next to him on the couch, to feel the warmth of his chest against me and his arm around me. His strong hugs have the power to slow my breathing and heal me. I love his back-rubs and foot massages, the kisses he plants so softly right below my ear…in that…
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Love and Lust
What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone? How do these differences color and effect the way you interact with that person? Where sex is involved, does the emotional layer affect its quality? Where do lust and desire fit into this? This week I’ve been thinking a lot about the ebbs and flows in a long-term relationship. With the Wicked Wednesday prompt of “Celibacy” and the Food For Thought prompt of “love vs. being IN love” and the place that lust/desire have in this equation, plus all the great posts that have come from these prompts, I’ve been considering my own marriage. When I first…
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Brigit’s Goals for 2019
A new year always, for me, initiates a new beginning, and, as many others have already done, it prompts me to reflect, re-evaluate, and plan for the upcoming year. As in past years, I’m starting out with the way I want to feel: connected, creative, fun, soft (receptive, accepting, breathing through the hard parts), sexy, and confident. The rest of my plans and goals have to support me in achieving these feelings, or they aren’t important enough to focus on or commit to. Relationships: As a fairly socially awkward introvert (excuses, excuses, I know), I tend to have difficulty building and sustaining deep relationships. I struggle with vulnerability (I…
