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My “Vision” of Dominance
This is a follow-up piece to My submissive “Vision” I’ve always be drawn to quiet dominance in men…not the sort of loud, brazen “I’m in charge here” arrogance that can be mistaken for dominance. The type you can feel in your bones and see in His eyes. My Husband need not say a word for me to know that a switch has been flipped and things are no longer up for discussion. His eyes can tell me “No” or “Stop” or “Begin” or “You’re on thin ice” or any number of things without His words ever getting called in to play. The fact that I respond to this, willingly or no,…
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Love Letter
I was going to buy a card today…but the damn things are five or six dollars, and I know I can say it better for free. So here we go. You are the love of my life. I knew you would be early on, even though you can never really be sure how things will turn out. Even when all I had of you was a picture and the words you churned out on the screen, there was a connection…a spark…the beginnings of something. And when I met you in person for the first time, I knew that butterflies in the stomach and weak knees were for real, and that…
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Lacking Privacy is Hard on a Sex Life
Sex Tracking I’ve been keeping track of our sex life on a phone app that allows me to categorize types of sex, who initiates, etc. It’s helping me be more mindful and reflective about what’s happening (or not). December wasn’t terrible…though it was far less than either of us would really like. We had sex five times, three of which were on the weekend, and I masturbated six times, all of which were in the middle of the week. We had a rough January, sex-wise. We only had sex twice, once on a weekend, and once during the week. Both were towards the end of the month. And I masturbated…
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There’s No Place Like Home
What does Home mean to you? Is Home a Place or Person? Where would you most like to live in the world? What makes a house a Home? Creating a Space that Feels Like Home I am an introvert…and an unapologetic homebody. I’m also, no surprise, a nester, and, because I spend so much time at home when I’m not working, I spend a hefty amount of time ensuring that my spaces feel “just right.” We just moved this past summer from a home we’d been in for more than 12 years. It was the first home we chose together, and it was the first home our son knew. And…
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7 Blogging Landmarks & 7 Future Blogging Plans
Landmark 1: When I started blogging, over ten years ago, I didn’t actually have a sex blog. It was just a “journal” style blog and I had zero followers. But that wasn’t the point. The point was simply to have a space where I could tag and categorize my thoughts. If I’d known about Evernote back then, I probably would have used that instead, but I didn’t, which means I made my way online and that was the first step to a very big world that I didn’t even really know existed. I had a few various blogs before I finally settled into one that lasted. I think, back then,…
