I’m not a natural submissive. While I am more submissive than I am dominant, and I do like the power dynamic of Him being in charge and me following, I can honestly say it does not come naturally to me. I have to work at it. I used to feel guilty about that…like I was…
Probably the best guidance I have ever come across regarding D/s is that there is no one true way…no particularly right way to do it. And I believe one of the gravest mistakes people can make when new to D/s is assume that there is. Of course there are good rules of thumb and things…
This is a follow-up piece to My submissive “Vision” I’ve always be drawn to quiet dominance in men…not the sort of loud, brazen “I’m in charge here” arrogance that can be mistaken for dominance. The type you can feel in your bones and see in His eyes. My Husband need not say a word for me…
Almost every weekend, Mr. D and I have a “marriage talk” — a sort of state of the union, if you will. It’s an opportunity to discuss things that are bothering us or things we’d like to change, and one of the things that came up a few weekends ago is that we’re seeing a marked…
We have ideas about the way things “should” be…the way we wish or hope they could or will be at some point. Even if we know those things aren’t completely possible, we can use them as “visions,” something to move toward. After all, the journey is more important than the destination, and even though we…
…exists only in fiction and film. And fiction and film can be disheartening to those who wish to find an identity in the world of D/s. I may not be the one to give advice on submission, as I personally feel like I am wanting in this role, but I truly think it’s a journey…
I’ve been pretty off my game lately. The move, going back to work…all of it has had me back-asswards and stressed out. And it has definitely, just like Mr. D suspected it would, gotten me off my D/s game and squashed my sex drive. This weekend, Mr. D woke me up in the dead of…
This post is #29 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. Dominance isn’t just a name. A person can call themselves “dominant” all damn day, but the traits of dominance are usually unspoken and can be both obvious…
This post is #1 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. I’ve decided to take the challenge! Kayla Lords and John Brownstone of LovingBDSM have a 30 Days of D/s daily email challenge where they…
He likes to watch me masturbate. But I hate being watched. If He tells me to do it, though, I can’t say no. It would be against the rules. It makes me uncomfortable to be so open and vulnerable. So “on display.” But, then. I’m His to display as He wishes, right? If He wants…