He came home an entered my office, where I sat, brain mired in law books and legal cases, writing a paper for school. I looked up at Him, knowing He’d expect me to come in the other room and remove His boots, as is our nightly ritual, but I could see a deeper expectation in…
I’m on Spring Break right now, which is heavenly. I have absolutely nothing planned, other than catching up on the mountain of laundry in my mudroom, writing, and reading. Mr. D, is at work, though, and sometimes it’s fun when He intrudes on my R & R. Like yesterday – He sent me this text……
If you’re new to BDSM terms, here’s a handy article that lays out some basic types of dominants and submissives. And here is an article I wrote awhile back: 14 Qualities of a “Good” Dominant. Recently I saw a post on twitter referencing “soft Doms,” and while I can make some reasonable assumptions about what…
I’m not a natural submissive. While I am more submissive than I am dominant, and I do like the power dynamic of Him being in charge and me following, I can honestly say it does not come naturally to me. I have to work at it. I used to feel guilty about that…like I was…
Probably the best guidance I have ever come across regarding D/s is that there is no one true way…no particularly right way to do it. And I believe one of the gravest mistakes people can make when new to D/s is assume that there is. Of course there are good rules of thumb and things…
This is a follow-up piece to My submissive “Vision” I’ve always be drawn to quiet dominance in men…not the sort of loud, brazen “I’m in charge here” arrogance that can be mistaken for dominance. The type you can feel in your bones and see in His eyes. My Husband need not say a word for me…
Almost every weekend, Mr. D and I have a “marriage talk” — a sort of state of the union, if you will. It’s an opportunity to discuss things that are bothering us or things we’d like to change, and one of the things that came up a few weekends ago is that we’re seeing a marked…
We have ideas about the way things “should” be…the way we wish or hope they could or will be at some point. Even if we know those things aren’t completely possible, we can use them as “visions,” something to move toward. After all, the journey is more important than the destination, and even though we…
…exists only in fiction and film. And fiction and film can be disheartening to those who wish to find an identity in the world of D/s. I may not be the one to give advice on submission, as I personally feel like I am wanting in this role, but I truly think it’s a journey…
I’ve been pretty off my game lately. The move, going back to work…all of it has had me back-asswards and stressed out. And it has definitely, just like Mr. D suspected it would, gotten me off my D/s game and squashed my sex drive. This weekend, Mr. D woke me up in the dead of…