Lillith Avir’s No True Way’s most recent prompt struck a chord with me, and I’ve been carrying it around in my brain for the past several days, letting it roll it around and smooth its edges like a river rock. The quote she refers to in her prompts is “Real D/s dynamics are 24/7.” I’m assuming…
That’s what it’s about, really. Submission may provide me with quite a bit (freedom, well-being, structure, protection and care), but what have I done for Him lately? Well, I don’t expect a standing ovation, but I did initiate sex a few days ago (very unlike me). But mainly this month, I have very subtly been…
I realized that while I was in control, I was unhappy. I didn’t like being a nag. I didn’t want to have to make all the decisions in a relationship, but I did want a voice. I wanted to feel cared for and respected. I also needed to be vulnerable. –Luna Caruthers I struggle with…
I’ve been putting out a #submission365 post each day since January 1st, on instagram and on twitter (see the sidebar widgets to follow). The point is to choose something I know I need to reflect on, personally. I haven’t been journaling on the topics myself, mainly because I’ve been putting in the time just getting…
If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. –Harry Hoover Submissives want things just like the rest of the world. But telling a Dominant to do something or provide something (beyond what has already been specifically established) is, in my opinion, a no-no. Communicating your wants is important, but there is a big different…
I know submission is supposed to be about giving and serving, but I think it is important to reflect on what you, as the submissive, get from it, both in the beginning, and periodically, just to update and ensure that it is still fulfilling for you. Because that IS important. I’d say, the first step…
I’m not a natural submissive. While I am more submissive than I am dominant, and I do like the power dynamic of Him being in charge and me following, I can honestly say it does not come naturally to me. I have to work at it. I used to feel guilty about that…like I was…
I’ve done it before…and it didn’t have much of an impact, but I’m trying it again, years later, and I’m hoping for a different outcome (is this the definition of insanity? doing the same thing over and over again hoping for different results?). Yesterday, I went to the gynecologist suggested by our sex therapist, who…
Side note: I time block using Google Calendar to plan my days and weeks out in advance, making sure I’ve made room for all the things I have to do and as many of the things I want to do as possible. Something new I am trying this year is to delete activities/events on my…
Find a notebook, any notebook, and open to the first page. Or, open up a new blank document on your computer. That, my friends, is the door to an adventure. In fact, any new beginning is the start to a potential adventure. I love the meme I’ve used for my feature image in this post,…