April 2019 –
I’ve decided to take the challenge! Kayla Lords and John Brownstone of LovingBDSM.com have a 30 Days of D/s daily email challenge where they send you a new question or prompt or thought each day to get your brain humming on the topic of D/s and how it applies to your life. It’s been around for some time (I know several other bloggers who’ve done it), but I’ve just now stumbled upon it…likely because it’s fate (yes…I believe in that sort of stuff).
So, I’m going to take the months of April and May…maybe even into June (I’ll be spacing them out and intermingling them with other posts) to do some pondering and writing and sharing as Kayla and John push me to dig a little deeper about the why’s and how’s and what’s of D/s as it pertains to my life. I may not do all of the prompts, as they don’t all apply to me. I also might not do them all in order. And I’ll likely be adding some topic and posts that aren’t part of the 30 Days prompt line-up. This is more about exploring my D/s relationship as it blossoms at the “beginning,” so the twists and turns and questions will dictate what I write more than the prompts, especially the further we go.
If you’re following, I’m glad you’re along for the journey. D/s isn’t new for me, but I will be honest and say that I don’t feel I have ever been the submissive I’d like to be. I took up the 30 Days of D/s challenge just as Mr. D and I were getting back on the proverbial D/s horse. So, these posts are sort of a “first timers” look at D/s. Things change over time, and though these posts are accurate portrayals of my feelings and opinions at the time, they may not be indicative of how I will always feel. Keep that in mind as you read through them in retrospect.
And if you’d like to play along or begin your own 30 Days of D/s journey, please visit the LovingBDSM website and sign up! They have a workbook, too, if you’d rather work at your own pace.
Also, Kayla created a link-up page for bloggers! Yay! So, now you will have access to lots of bloggers’ responses to these questions. What a kick-ass D/s resource, right?!!
Head over to the page (HERE) to link-up and get a hold of this seriously adorable badge:
If you’d rather just read my posts one right after the other, without returning to this page, Click HERE to go to my 30 Days of D/s category page. This will just allow you to scroll from one to the next without interruption.
But, if you’d rather pick and choose, here are my posts for the challenge. I haven’t followed them all in order, I left a few out, and some of them I took liberty with and made them my own:
1 – April 1: 14 Qualities of a Good Dominant
2 – April 2: What Submission Means to Me
3 – April 3: What’s in a Name? (How D/s Labels Can Help Us Find Ourselves)
4 – April 4: Contracts & Negotiations in a D/s Relationship
5 – April 5: Discipline & Punishment in a D/s Relationship
6 – April 6: Conflict in a D/s Relationship
7 – April 7: Is Confidence at the Root of Good Communication?
8 – April 8: Handling Negative Emotions in My D/s Relationship
9 – April 9: What are Your Limits?
10 – April 10: Choosing a Safe Word
11 – April 11: Consent: The Difference Between Abuse and BDSM
12 – April 14: D/s Doesn’t Mean Leaving Vanilla Behind
13 – April 15: Pain
14 – April 16: It begins with an offering of submission
15 – April 17: How He Accepted My Submission
16 – April 18: When the Dom’s Away the sub Will…
17 – April 21: Rules in My D/s Relationship
18 – April 22: Real Life D/s
19 – April 24: When Sub Duties Become Irritating
20 – April 30: D/s Doesn’t Always (or Ever) Have to Be about Sex
21 – May 2: Readers’ Forum: Do you use orgasm control?
22 – May 11: Please Spank Me, Daddy…
23 – May 13: Sexual Availability
24 – May 21: 24/7 D/s (Weakness & Punishment)
25 – May 22: Rituals & Reminders to Keep the Submissive Flame Burning (w/Reader’s Forum)
26 – May 25: Trust
27 – May 28: This Is Not Subfrenzy
28 -June 2: Realization (Subspace/Subdrop/Aftercare)
29 – June 3: Dominance: More Than Meets the Eye
30 – (Exploring Our Kinks Together)
31 (The End/Reflections/Where Do We Go From Here)
Of course, this won’t be the last I write of D/s. After all, I live the life, and as such, it’s pretty important to me. I will continue to tag any and all D/s posts “D/s” or include tags such as “dominance” or “submission.”
(Disclaimer: The opinions in these articles are simply that…opinions. These are my personal feelings on issues of D/s. It is important to note that I am and always have been in a consensual relationship, and any activities I partake of, I have done so with full consciousness and willingness. Also, on the issue of pronoun usage, I use HE/she pronouns, with the Dominant being the He and the submissive being the she. This is for ease of writing and because it is what I identify with. Pronouns are interchangeable, so feel free to fill in with those that work best for your situation. Be nice in the comments. I’m not here to be berated or argue the issues, I’m just here to explore my own feelings and opinions and share them with those that may find benefit in doing so.)