April 2019 –

I’ve decided to take the challenge! Kayla Lords and John Brownstone of LovingBDSM.com have a 30 Days of D/s daily email challenge where they send you a new question or prompt or thought each day to get your brain humming on the topic of D/s and how it applies to your life. It’s been around for some time (I know several other bloggers who’ve done it), but I’ve just now stumbled upon it…likely because it’s fate (yes…I believe in that sort of stuff).

So, I’m going to take the month of April to do some pondering and writing and sharing as Kayla and John push me to dig a little deeper about the why’s and how’s and what’s of D/s as it pertains to my life.

If you’re following, I’m glad you’re along for the journey. D/s isn’t new for me, but I will be honest and say that I don’t feel I have ever been the submissive I’d like to be. I’m hoping this month of introspection will help me to define exactly what I’m hoping for and how I can achieve it.

And if you’d like to play along or begin your own 30 Days of D/s journey, please visit the LovingBDSM website and sign up! They have a workbook, too, if you’d rather work at your own pace.

Also, just today (April 2, 2019), Kayla created a link-up page for bloggers! Yay! So, now you will have access to lots of bloggers’ responses to these questions. What a kick-ass D/s resource, right?!!

Head over to the page (HERE) to link-up and get a hold of this seriously adorable badge:

If you’d rather just read my posts for the month one right after the other, without returning to this page, Click HERE to go to my 30 Days of D/s category page. This will just allow you to scroll from one to the next without interruption.

But, if you’d rather pick and choose, here are my posts for the challenge:

April 1: 14 Qualities of a Good Dominant
April 2: What Submission Means to Me
April 3: What’s in a Name? (How D/s Labels Can Help Us Find Ourselves)
April 4: Contracts & Negotiations in a D/s Relationship
April 5: Discipline & Punishment in a D/s Relationship
April 6: Conflict in a D/s Relationship
April 7: Is Confidence at the Root of Good Communication?
April 8: Handling Negative Emotions in My D/s Relationship
April 9: What are Your Limits?
April 10: Choosing a Safe Word
April 11: Consent: The Difference Between Abuse and BDSM
April 14: D/s Doesn’t Mean Leaving Vanilla Behind
April 15: Pain
April 16: It begins with an offering of submission
April 17: Bonus post – How He Accepted My Submission
April 18: When the Dom’s Away the sub Will…
April 21: Bonus post – Rules in My D/s Relationship
April 22:

(Disclaimer: The opinions in these articles are simply that…opinions. These are my personal feelings on issues of D/s. It is important to note that I am and always have been in a consensual relationship, and any activities I partake of, I have done so with full consciousness and willingness. Also, on the issue of pronoun usage, I use HE/she pronouns, with the Dominant being the He and the submissive being the she. This is for ease of writing and because it is what I identify with. Pronouns are interchangeable, so feel free to fill in with those that work best for your situation. Be nice in the comments. I’m not here to be berated or argue the issues, I’m just here to explore my own feelings and opinions and share them with those that may find benefit in doing so.)

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