Welcome to my little slice of the internet. This is sort of like my closet, where I let my skeletons roam wild and free, sharing their dirty little (sometimes sexy) secrets, ideas, stories, and images with anyone who will listen (or look).
I’m a pretty private person in my day-to-day life. I live in a small town and am part of a community (socially and professionally) that would never accept me for the person that I’m allowed to be here.
So, to my few dear readers, I thank you for the opportunity to share, and grow, and create, with you by my side. Just knowing that you are out there, lurking silently or commenting openly, makes me feel connected.
Just for your information, too, as you wander through my posts, my husband has been known by several different names in my writing, as we have shifted and changed and modified our roles. You’ll see him called Mr. LL, Mr. D, Sir, and Daddy. Long-term relationships are funny things, and as many of us know, they change over time. Ours has done that with our ups and downs, and I’m sure it will continue to do so.
What do I write about?
Here at brigitdelaney.com, I write mainly about sex as it pertains to the most important facets of my life. Sex and marriage. Sex and yoga. Sex and mindfulness. Sex and aging. Sex and….well, you get the point.
The most common “sex and…” that I cover is sex and marriage. My husband and I have had a lot of ups and downs, two near-divorces, and seemingly continual bumps in the road. But, at the center of it all, our foundation is made of a pretty intense love that holds us together and keeps us from giving up. We don’t have an easy relationship, and I write often about our struggles. I don’t have the answers on what makes a marriage work, and I can’t tell you how to make things easier for you and yours. We’re often a hot mess over here, and I make no apologies for sharing.
We’ve tried various forms of non-monogamy and tripped our way in and out of D/s. I write about that quite a bit, as both have caused their share of difficulty and comfort over the years.
I’ve also had some pretty serious libido “issues” since 2007 (after an emergency hysterectomy). This lends a fairly high level of stress in our relationship, and…as such, I write about my low sex drive (and his high one) fairly often. I’ve tried lots of things to increase it, change it, improve it, bend it, build it…you name it. And really, nothing has made a lasting impact. Low libido isn’t always “fixable.” Which is upsetting and hard to admit. But, I haven’t given up yet…dammit.
Now that we are in our 40s, and both of us are seeing our hormones shift a bit, our levels of desire and, as a result, our sex life, are changing. I want to continue exploring how age affects our sexual relationship and our erotic connection. And maybe our struggles will resonate with you and make you feel just that much better about your own.
This is real shit here. Nothing about our life glitters or glows. We’re parents with stressful jobs who perpetually need a vacation that we can’t afford.
You might want to read this post for more information: Why I Blog About My Sex Life
A couple of my most popular personal experience posts:
Recently I started a feature called Brigit’s Diary. Many of you may remember Bridget Jones’s Diary. This is my take on the style, humor, and vulnerability of that novel, sharing moments from my own life.
I’ve recently rolled out The Erotic Poetry Challenge, a monthly link-up with weekly prompts (offered via Twitter on Wednesdays).
And I’ll continue on with the monthly link-up – Erotic Journal Challenge, as well (now in its second year!).
I write a bit of short erotic fiction (which I share here) and last summer, I began the Brigit’s Bedtime Stories podcast.
A few of my most popular stories are:
I don’t always keep to my writing schedule. Expect lengthy absences, as my life takes over quite a bit. I work full time, am a mom and wife, and sometimes I just get tired of writing and take a break from the website.
I really don’t write for anyone but me, though I enjoy engaging with others and getting feedback and comments…so please feel free and welcome! Writing can be a lonely hobby, and I share my writing both here and on other people’s pages in an effort to make connections with other like-minded folks.