“True confession consists of telling our deeds in such a way that our soul is changed in the telling of it.”
Welcome to my little slice of the internet. This is sort of like my closet, where I let my skeletons roam wild and free, sharing their dirty little (sometimes sexy) secrets with anyone who will listen.
Like many sex-bloggers, I’m a pretty private person in my day-to-day life. I live in a small town and am part of a community (socially and professionally) that would never accept me for the person that I’m allowed to be here.
So, dear readers, I thank you for the opportunity to share, and grow, and create, with you by my side. Just knowing that you are out there, lurking silently or commenting openly, makes me feel connected to you.
I’ve been blogging for years, and this website has gone through many transformations. I began my sex blogging adventures as The Lustful Literate, but recently (2018), I moved to self-hosting. I transferred over my early writing in February 2019. Many of those posts are rough and do not have featured images. I am in the process of “cleaning” the most popular of those up and making them mesh better with the appearance of this new site. So, please be patient with the clutter as I work through all of that.
Just for your information, too, as you wander through my posts, my Husband has been known by several different names in my writing, as we have shifted and changed and modified our roles. You’ll see him called Mr. LL (for Lustful Literate), Mr. D (for Delaney), Sir, and Daddy. Long-term relationships are funny things, and as many of us know, they change over time. Ours has done that with our ups and downs, and I’m sure it will continue to do so.
What do I write about?
Marriage, Sex, Relationships, Dominance & Submission
I write mainly about our marriage and sex life. Now that we are in our 40s, and both of us are seeing our hormones shift a bit, our levels of desire and, as a result, our sex life, are changing. I want to continue exploring how age affects our sexual relationship and our erotic connection. In 2019, we began dipping our toes back into D/s, and I write pretty consistently about that journey. Check out my 30 Days of D/s posts and my “rules.” Honesty is the name of the game here, and I plan to be as honest about our trials and tribulations as possible. We’re parents and we work full time, so that also creates depth in this story.
This year, my focus is Mindfulness, specifically as it relates to marriage and sex. In an effort to stay on top of these topics, I’m introducing two new additions to the website: Mindfulness Monday, a bi-weekly investigation of the impact mindfulness can have on relationships, sensuality, and sexuality, and Lessons from the Mat, a bi-weekly inspection of what yoga can do to improve one’s mind, body, and soul, paving the way for increased libido, improved sexual connection, and deeper sensuality.
You can also search by category or topic, if there is something specific you’d like to know more about (i.e. anal sex, masturbation, mental health, goals, etc.).
We’ve been involved with swinging and have brushed the surface of discussing polyamory. In fact, my most popular post of all time is Processing Emotions about Polyamory.
Mental Health, Hormones, and Libido
I live my life around the challenges of bipolar disorder and all the complications it brings to my life and marriage – the mania, depression, irritability, anxiety. Fun stuff. Understandably, it makes its way into my writing quite often. I also write about hormones and how they affect my (and my Husband’s) sex drive/libido. I’ve had many difficulties over the years with what is often tagged a “low libido.” My Husband’s has always been high (until just recently, when it plummeted to nearly non-existent). I also had a hysterectomy when I was 31 and have been seeing early signs of perimenopause. All of this can take a toll on a relationship. Learning to navigate those waters is tricky business, and therefore gives me lots to write about.
I’ll be returning, in 2020, for my 2nd year as a jury member for Smut Marathon, so I do write some pretty involved response posts about the writing for the competition. And every once in awhile I post some writing advice or opinion pieces about writing, such as 6 Ways to Provide Writing Feedback and Confessional Writing: Self-Indulgent Narcissism or Legitimate Art?
I was a contestant in 2018, so you’ll also find some of my work for the competition scattered throughout my erotica.
A few of my most popular stories are:
I write sex toy reviews (Sex Toy Sunday) for various companies. Those can be found HERE. I’d love to add lingerie, destinations, and books to this, as well. So, if you have something you would like reviewed, please contact me.
My main project in 2019 was The Erotic Journal Challenge. It started as a weekly journal prompt, but has since morphed into a monthly prompt which all are invited to participate. Check out my responses to the prompts HERE. And please…get involved!
I write quite a bit of short erotic fiction (which I share here) and just this summer, I’ve begun the Brigit’s Bedtime Stories podcast. I’m going back to the beginning and recording some of my earliest stories first, and I’ll work my way forward. My goal is a new episode each Sunday/Monday.
Occasionally I submit photos to Sinful Sunday (a weekly photo meme run by Molly Moore), Lingerie is For Everyone, or I simply get a wild hair and decide to post an image of myself. The past two years, I’ve also contributed to February PhotoFest. You can find those images beneath “photos” in the navigation menu.
My most loved images:
I am also joining in for a second year as a jury member for Marie Rebel’s Smut Marathon! Check out all the wonderfully smutty writing as the year progresses by visiting the Smut Marathon website. Be sure to bookmark it, read the entries, and vote, vote, vote!!!
Read my bio HERE.
Get in Touch
If you are interested in working with me, having me write a review, would like to advertise on my site, have ideas or requests for my writing, suggestions, questions, or just want to drop me a line, please do! There’s a contact link in the navigation menu at the top of the page. You can also find me on Twitter (@BrigitWrites) I look forward to hearing from you.
And as always, thanks for being here. Your presence is appreciated.