Welcome to the Challenge! This is a weekly journal prompt activity I’m starting to help myself explore my own eroticism. Over the past years, I feel like I’ve sort of fallen out of the habit of living an erotic life…or maybe I should just be honest and say, I’ve never really lived a fully erotic life, at least not in the way I’d like to. Getting in deep touch with my own sensuality is something I’ve struggled with. Every so often, I catch a glimpse, and truly get a sense of what it is that turns me on and heats me up. But, it’s like a back warming burner on the stove…easy to forget about, never hot enough, and I’m always just a little afraid to turn it up too high.
Each week, I will post a topic or question that I plan to explore in my own journal. I’m going to post them and add a link-up (my first ever!) so that readers can get in on the challenge, too. I encourage you to respond in whatever way seems most authentic – a journal entry, drawing, photo, video, story, poem…ANYTHING that can be posted on your website. Then, link your post here.
I’ll post the prompts sometime on Saturday/Sunday each week, and the link-up will remain open until 11:55 PST the following Sunday.
I have enough prompts to run the challenge all year! So, gear up for some deep introspection if you plan to participate. I loves me some confessional writing!
Please contact me with questions, comments, or any great prompts you think should be part of the experience.
And don’t forget to use the badge below and link back to the prompts (thank you!). Right click on the image to save to your desktop or device.
Prompt #1, 1/5-1/11: Sensuality (The 5 Senses) – Whatever your sensual situation may be, consider what part your senses play or have played in your erotic life. How might you want to experience them in ways that you haven’t yet? Focus on one or all.
Prompt #2, 1/12-1/18: Discovery – When did you discover your own sexuality? For example, when was the first time you masturbated or realized you could feel physical sexual pleasure? When did you first feel sexual desire? How did you address it?
Prompt #3, 1/19-1/25: Dirty Talk – How do you feel about dirty talk? Are you any good at it? Does it turn you on? Do you have any good stories about it?
Prompt #4, 1/26-2/1: Exploration – What would you like to explore in your sexuality over the next 30 days? Within the next year? Let’s keep it small, focused, and specific. Something you can plan ahead for and measure progress…
Prompt #5, 2/2-2/9: Hurt – Have you ever been hurt sexually (physically, emotionally, mentally)? How do you think this impacts your likes/dislikes, what you gravitate toward or what you shy away from when it comes to sex? (You can think of this hurt in positive or negative terms.)
Prompt #6, 2/9-2/17: Style – How would you describe your sexual style?
Prompt #7, 2/16-2/24: Distress – Do you find anything distressing or uncomfortable about your sexual thoughts, fantasies, desires, or actions? (past or present)
Prompt #8, 2/23-3/3: Reading – Reading can spur a lot of erotic emotions, thoughts, and actions. Write about the books, magazines, or other reading materials that have shaped your sexuality.
Prompt #9, 3/2-3/10: Watching – Similar to reading about sex, watching sex can definitely influence what we think or feel sexually. Write about the films, television shows, or porn that have shaped your sexuality.
Prompt #10, 3/9-3/17: First Love – Write a letter to your first love…or to your younger self at that time. What did you take away from that relationship? What do you remember? Are your memories happy, sad…bittersweet? How did you grow?
Prompt #11, 3/16-3/24: Sex Ed – What were you taught about sex as you grew up? What did you not know that you wished you’d known? What/how did you teach yourself? Who taught you the most?
Catch-up week, 3/23-3/3: If you’ve missed the opportunity to do one of the prompts or if you have another idea for a prompt you’ve already written for, this is your chance! Respond to any or all of prompts #1-11! (Even I missed one…as I was so busy getting ready for and getting over Eroticon!)
Prompt #12, 3/30-4/7: Sexy – What makes you feel sexy?
Prompt #13, 4/6-4/14: Wishes – Imagine you found a genie who only grants sexual wishes. What would you wish for if you had 3 wishes?
Prompt #14, 4/13-4/21: Realization – Write about a time when you realized something about your sexuality.
Prompt #15, 4/20-4/28: Risk – Consider this quote and how it might apply to your erotic life: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin
Prompt #16, 4/29-5/05: Confession – Let go of a secret…or write about a time when you did or feel you should have and didn’t…confess to yourself, to us, to anyone…but let it go…
Prompt #17, 5/4-5/12: Never Again – What have you done sexually that you would never do again? Or are there things you’ve done that you’d do but with certain changes? Is there a promise you’ve made yourself about how you will conduct yourself sexually based on events of the past?
Prompt #18, 5/11-5/19: Turn-ons – What turns you on?
Prompt #19, 5/18-5/26: Embarrassed – Have you ever been embarrassed to ask your partner for something sexually? Have you ever had an embarrassing sexual moment? Is there something about yourself you are embarrassed to show or share?
Prompt #20, 5/25-6/2: Aging – What are your thoughts (hopes…fears…expectations…feelings) regarding sexuality as you age?
Catch-up week #2, 6/1-6/9: If you’ve missed the opportunity to do one of the prompts or if you have another idea for a prompt you’ve already written for, this is your chance! Respond to any or all of prompts #1-20!
Prompt #21, 6/8-6/23: Gratitude – What are whom are you most grateful for in your erotic life…and why? You get TWO weeks on this one!
Prompt #22, 6/22-6/30: Body Love part 1…What parts of your body do you love…and what parts do you have trouble accepting? Our bodies tell a story…what tales does yours have to tell?
Prompt #23, 6/29-7/10: Body Love part 2…what parts of your lover’s body do you love the most…and, if you feel comfortable…what parts do you have trouble accepting? (extended due to holiday weekend)
Prompt #24, 7/8-7/14: Hormones – What impact have hormones or the treatment of hormones had on your sexuality, erotic well-being, and/or sexual relationships?
Prompt #25, 7/13-7/22: Mental Health – What impact has mental health (yours or a loved one’s) had on your sexuality, erotic well-being, and/or sexual relationships?
Prompt #26, 7/21-7/28: Vows…If you were to write wedding vows for your sex life (or just vows/new vows for your relationship/marriage), what would you say to or promise your lover/partner (even that love is yourself)?
Prompt #27, 7/28-8/4: Today – What do you love most or wish you could change about your sex life as it appears today?
Prompt #28, 8/4-8/11: Sexual Positions – What is your favorite/least favorite sexual position and why?
13-Day Retreat, 8/13-9/30 – A “retreat” is defined as a stepping back from your regular routine to become introspective, to rest, to regain a sense of calm and collect your thoughts. Retreats can also be a time when you gain inspiration from others to fuel your own endeavors. Not all of us can afford (time or money) to go on a real retreat (for art, spirit, or any other reason). But we can set aside a particular time each day to “retreat” and go inward, creating a space that is ripe for healing, growth, and rejuvenation. Join me for 13 days of doing just that. I’m doing my 13 Days from 8/13-8/25, but you can join in and link-up anytime before 9/30.
September is “Catch-up Month”, 9/1-9/30 – As I am in the middle of moving and starting a new work year, I’m devoting the entire month to going back and doing prompts you’ve missed (I’ve missed a few myself) or adding to prompts you may now have more to say about.
Prompt #29, 9/26-10/6: What are your sexual limits? Have they changed or always been the same?
Prompt #30, 10/3-10/13: How have your views about sex changed over time?