I’m not a natural submissive. While I am more submissive than I am dominant, and I do like the power dynamic of Him being in charge and me following, I can honestly say it does not come naturally to me. I have to work at it. I used to feel guilty about that…like I was…
So I feel like we are finally moving past the introductory-style meetings with our therapist, where discussing history, communication, dynamics, etc. is the focus, and we are getting to the point where our sex life is taking the front seat. That’s not to say that there hasn’t been an undercurrent of that all along. It’s…
I’ve done it before…and it didn’t have much of an impact, but I’m trying it again, years later, and I’m hoping for a different outcome (is this the definition of insanity? doing the same thing over and over again hoping for different results?). Yesterday, I went to the gynecologist suggested by our sex therapist, who…
So the Quote Quest quote for this week is one I referenced earlier this week, but the post just didn’t work to link-up. It is, however, a perfect quote for the beginning of the year. Most of us have made some sort of goal or chosen a word or theme for this new year. I’ve…
Side note: I time block using Google Calendar to plan my days and weeks out in advance, making sure I’ve made room for all the things I have to do and as many of the things I want to do as possible. Something new I am trying this year is to delete activities/events on my…
Find a notebook, any notebook, and open to the first page. Or, open up a new blank document on your computer. That, my friends, is the door to an adventure. In fact, any new beginning is the start to a potential adventure. I love the meme I’ve used for my feature image in this post,…
There are a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground. – Rumi There are two days left in 2020, and while our yearly endings and beginnings are a human construct and only psychologically create doors from one thing to another, there is something gratifying about the closure and opportunity that New Year’s brings. I…
Part of reclaiming my submission is falling back into place within our relationship. That means some changes that I’m used to and some changes I’ve never been good at. Service submission Thankfully, His main love language is Acts of Service, because I honestly believe that this is the type of submission I do best. Serving…
As I’ve noted before, Mr. D and I have been going to a sex therapist/marriage counselor, Dr. Roger Libby, for a little while now. It began making a difference from the first day, because it was obvious how different he was from a regular marriage counselor. He gave us hope and immediately started guided us…
D/s can be role play. Don’t get me wrong. Playing out a scene where someone is the Dominant party (like the professor) who ties up or spanks the submissive party (like the naughty student) can be perfectly satisfying. And there is nothing wrong with D/s being an occasional part of your sexual repertoire. But D/s can…