30 Days of D/s
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I finally finished “30 Days of D/s” (and it only took 9 months!)
Yesterday, I sent Him a text: “It’s no-panty Friday and I’m itching for your cock…and your hand on my ass…” Along with this image (which I also posted on Twitter): He didn’t say anything about it, and we just hung out on the couch drinking coffee, reading, and waiting for the youngster to head off to the movies with His friend (something that is causing more and more of an obstruction to our sex life as he gets older and becomes more aware). I even headed off to do some chores and fuck around on the internet in my writing cave. When suddenly, this text appeared: “I don’t like waiting.”…
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Dominance – More than Meets the Eye
This post is #29 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. Dominance isn’t just a name. A person can call themselves “dominant” all damn day, but the traits of dominance are usually unspoken and can be both obvious and subtle. I’ll use Mr. D as an example. EYE CONTACT: When I first met Him, he was sitting at a table with friends at a bar where we had planned to meet. He left His friends when He saw me and we sat at another table alone. He stood tall, leaned forward, looked me…
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Realization
This post is #28 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. “There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” Zora Neale Hurston It’s one of my favorite quotes, simply because it so often applies to my life. And it came to mind again this morning after a late night conversation that turned epiphany for both myself and Mr. D. For years, we realized last night, we have been asking the wrong questions (and therefore searching for the wrong answers), to the detriment of our sex life and to the detriment of…
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This is Not “Sub Frenzy”
This post is #27 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. As someone who deals with bi-polar disorder and completely understands the implications of manic behavior, I guess I’d have to admit that I can become frenetic about anything new: a project, a goal, a plan, and yes…a lifestyle. Though I wouldn’t say it’s a bad thing, necessarily, to be excited about the prospects of “new” endeavors, the “new” does tend to wear off pretty quickly for me. And I fear that. Because when it wears off, it often brings guilt and shame…
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Trust
This post is #26 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. In any relationship, trust is paramount. It can be earned, lost, regained. Depending on who you are, you may trust easily, or not at all. And that affects how, when, and with whom you can sustain a partnership. I don’t trust easily. I was taught not to, verbally and on a fairly regular basis, by my father. Partly because of that, and partly because of my personality, I was always a one-friend-at-a-time kind of person when I was young. I had more…
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Rituals & Reminders to Keep the Submissive Flame Burning (w/Reader’s Forum)
This post is #25 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. It’s not like I suddenly forget I’m a submissive, but during the day, it’s easy (and natural) to not think about it, as I get involved in all the things I have to do: get myself and the kiddo ready for school (which can be stressful, as morning is not really our cup of tea), get to work, do a million things while I’m there, run errands, go to yoga (though I usually choose something relating to our relationship as my intention…
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24/7 D/s (Weaknesses & First Punishment)
This post is #24 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. I’ve always pretty much been submissive to my Husband. From the beginning, though, I’ll admit it was sometimes difficult to let go of control, especially since I had lived on my own for some time and hadn’t really had very dominant lovers before Him. I craved it though, even if it was only subconscious. But rather than submitting (since I didn’t really realize that’s what I needed)…to a good Dominant…as would have been healthy…I lost myself to men, trying desperately to push…
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Sexual Availability
This post is #23 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. D/s relationships often include some type of sexual availability…and mine surely does. When He asks, I am rarely willing to attempt a “no.” And I usually have no problem jumping to fulfill his sexual needs, be it a blow job in the afternoon, a morning fuck, or a mid-day bend-over in the bedroom. I don’t mind Him fucking my face, using me for His pleasure. In fact, I enjoy it 90% of the time. Sexsomnia The time I have the most trouble…
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Please Spank Me, Daddy….
This post is #22 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. Mr. D and I have slowly been sliding our feet back into our D/s dynamic over the past month or so, redefining what we want and how we want it, and I’ll admit, it feels different than it ever has before. More than anything, I feel different, and He has been a lot less quick to move things along, which means I’ve felt more comfortable. It’s given me the opportunity to begin wanting things before He has a chance to introduce them, and I’ve even…
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Readers’ Forum: Do You Use Orgasm Control?
This post is #21 in my 30 Days of D/s series. If you’d like to read more, please visit my 30 Days of D/s page for the complete inventory of posts. Quite honestly, I don’t have a lot to say about this topic. This isn’t anything Mr. D and I have ever tried or even talked about trying. I’ve read stories and other people’s accounts that make it sound terribly erotic, but for myself, it’s not something I’ve ever counted as a thing I really wanted to try. But, since the topic came up for 30 Days of D/s, I figured I’d at least attempt a post. After all, there is quite…
