Awhile back, I did a post on The 3 Things Almost Everyone Fantasizes About, and I promised to come back to the topic and cover the other types of fantasies that are most common, based on the study done for the April book pick Tell Me What You Want. These last four are tied together…
It really is kind of funny: when Mr. D cracks my ass, my dog goes into overdrive. Her tail goes between her legs, she runs around the room…anxious and worried, jumping up, putting her paws on the edge of the bed, sniffing me and making sure I’m okay. She requires a lot of “petting” (verbal…
I’m on Spring Break right now, which is heavenly. I have absolutely nothing planned, other than catching up on the mountain of laundry in my mudroom, writing, and reading. Mr. D, is at work, though, and sometimes it’s fun when He intrudes on my R & R. Like yesterday – He sent me this text……
Submission appeals to responsible, hard working and independent women, because it takes them to a world free from those pressures. Are submissive all hard working and independent? Have you found this statement to be true? Is submission a world without pressure? This morning, as I was doing my submissive reading/research, as I am wont to…
I very much resist when people try to put me in a box…label me…tell me what I can or can’t or should or shouldn’t be. It brings the rage monster out in me. (Unless, of course, it’s my Husband…and it’s related to our D/s relationship…but that’s a whole different subject, entirely.) And it doesn’t need…
The longer I live this “low-libido” rollercoaster journey, the more I learn. And because I know there are people out there on the same frustrating path, I’d like to share a few insights from my field notes. Over the years, I’ve found that a few things work more than others, and much like any health…
If you’re new to BDSM terms, here’s a handy article that lays out some basic types of dominants and submissives. And here is an article I wrote awhile back: 14 Qualities of a “Good” Dominant. Recently I saw a post on twitter referencing “soft Doms,” and while I can make some reasonable assumptions about what…
I posted earlier on the topic of foundations. But today, as I was perusing other people’s posts, I came across one that got me thinking about foundations in relationships again and how important they are when it comes to growth and change and risk. When you have a solid foundation of friendship, commitment, love, respect,…
People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the…
Lillith Avir’s No True Way’s most recent prompt struck a chord with me, and I’ve been carrying it around in my brain for the past several days, letting it roll it around and smooth its edges like a river rock. The quote she refers to in her prompts is “Real D/s dynamics are 24/7.” I’m assuming…
Part of reclaiming my submission is falling back into place within our relationship. That means some changes that I’m used to and some changes I’ve never been good at. Service submission Thankfully, His main love language is Acts of Service, because I honestly believe that this is the type of submission I do best. Serving…