D/s can be role play. Don’t get me wrong. Playing out a scene where someone is the Dominant party (like the professor) who ties up or spanks the submissive party (like the naughty student) can be perfectly satisfying. And there is nothing wrong with D/s being an occasional part of your sexual repertoire. But D/s can…
So I’ve been trying to improve my active submission this week. I’ve been lighting a candle when I get home in an effort to transition my brain from work day to home life (and, in effect, my role as sub). I’ll continue to hone this transitional ritual. After reflecting on my submissive identity, I also…
There are many ways of being submissive, and the only thing that makes one more right or true than another is that it works for you and the person(s) with whom you share it. That being said, I often struggle with my own submission. It doesn’t always come easily. I can be contrary and moody, even downright disrespectful at times.…
“The paradox is that the needs of the master are not, in fact, superior to the needs of the submissive. Rather, they share equal importance.” – Kacie Cunningham All humans have basic needs: sustenance, rest, shelter, love and belonging. And most of us have needs for things like entertainment, purposeful work, and community. But each…
I fell behind a bit when The Submissive Advent Calendar, but I’ve written down a few I skipped so that I could come back to them at a later time. This one in particular keeps niggling my brain: When are you most aware of being owned/submissive? At first, I wasn’t really sure, but these past…
It’s always good to reassess your goals, and this is usually the time of year a fair lot of us begin this process…in preparation for the new year. This has been, for the most part, a fairly unlikable year, and, as stated in earlier posts, it has led our marriage right into a dark pothole…one…
There are many types of submission, and while I have a fairly good idea of what type/brand works best for me, there are also two styles: active and passive. Active submission entails acting/serving before one is asked to do anything. The submissive “actively” seeks out ways to serve their Dominant. Passive submission entails waiting for…
We’re finding our way back. Slowly and by feel. It’s somewhat like wandering around a giant house at night looking for light switches. We’ve lived here a long time, and we know where all the obstacles are, though occasionally we stub our toes on things that have been added or left out of place. And…
I’m terrible about receiving compliments about my body, most often because I don’t believe them. When someone says I look good or that I’m sexy, I have to stop, take that information and sort of choke it down before I offer up some sort of weak thank you amidst blushing and a downward glance. Unless I already…
Yesterday, in The Submissive Advent Calendar, I was to find or create a token to remind myself of my submission. A simple thing, really. And yet, I struggled with it…reconsidering it throughout the day. A bracelet? No. Because I am on the computer most of the day, and jewelry on my wrists is bothersome (though…