Experience

  • Experience,  Opinion

    TMI Tuesday

    1. Do you feel that happiness is luck or is it a practiced mindset? I definitely believe it is a mindset. And even if it weren’t, it certainly isn’t luck. Happiness is more a state of mind in which we accept our circumstances for now (planning and working to change what we must) and ourselves and find ways of feeling good in our world. Practicing gratitude, prioritizing relationships and connecting with others, being kind, smiling, being active and healthy, sleeping well, taking care of our needs and the needs of those we love, being productive and impactful in our work and activities. These are all ways of practicing happiness.  …

  • Erotic Journal Challenge,  Experience,  My EJC Responses,  Photography

    State of the Union

    I’ve done a State of the Union post at the beginning of the year before. Just a description of where my sex life and marriage is today…to get the lay of the land, so to speak. It’s hard to decide where to go next if you aren’t fully aware of where you are now and where you’ve been…and we’ve been a lot of places. Currently, we’re getting back on the horse, after a long stint of slowly falling apart. I’ve only recently reviewed that, so I won’t rehash it here. But, we are currently doing okay 👍. We’ve had sex a few times (instigated from both sides) and have agreed…

  • Experience

    New Year’s Intentions

    I’m not one for resolutions, but I do love a plan, knowing full well that plans must leave room for growth and flexibility, and that plans often must be modified along the way. My work requires a lot this type of planning. And because I spend so much time planning, I tend to prefer a plan in all areas of my life. New Year’s provides the perfect time for plans. A goal without a plan is just a wish. I already discussed my blogging goals/plans in a previous post. But here are my other personal plans (not that you care, but since this blog is really just my journal, this…

  • Experience

    Restructuring

    So we finally talked this morning, to reestablish our ground rules and boundaries. He began with, tell me what you’re willing to do. It was one way to start. But I opted to turn it around, in an attempt to keep him from editing his desires to accommodate mine. What do you want? We agreed that a D/s foundation is good for us both. He is a better person when he feels his Dominance is strong and respected. It fuels his self-esteem and makes him a happier human. I DO struggle with submission. Not gonna lie…I’m not a natural submissive, but I AM and always have been the more submissive…

  • Experience

    Developments

    It had been nearly three weeks since we’d had hungry, mindless, middle-of-the-night sex. Sex that he woke up regretting because he felt it sent the message that things were fine…or better. We’ve been here before. Nothing new, and most of my readers are already familiar with the tale. But for those who are not, here’s a synopsis: The school year begins and my stress level increases. My focus turns to work, and my libido takes a hike. Sometime around November, things calm down, and my libido returns, along with my creative focus. Given my work, this cycle isn’t likely to change until I retire. There are just times of year…

  • Experience,  Photography

    Solstice

      #SubmissiveAdvent I have not had much to say in response to the prompts for the past few days. I’ve basically been a lump of laziness. Covid has taken a giant rude shit on our holiday plans (we’re all perfectly healthy even though the young one has tested positive with a breakthrough infection). So now we are doing solstice, my birthday, Christmas Eve, Christmas, and New Year’s at home on our own. Good thing we like each other and are, for the most part, happy introverts. 😊 I don’t have to quarantine, because I’m vaccinated, but I still won’t risk exposing anyone by attending any festivities. A run or two…

  • Experience,  Photography

    Thank You

    Today’s #SubmissiveAdvent topic is gratitude…specifically saying thank you to someone who has helped me on my journey. So I’ve decided to give some shout outs to those from whom I have learned the most. Many of these people, I continue to learn from, through their writing/experiences. Conquer Me – Kacie Cunningham (the first book I read on submission…and one I go back to, time and time again) submissiveguide.com submissy.com LovingBDSM’s 30 Days of D/s Writerly readers who have stuck with me and supported me through presence and absence, creative highs and lows, and everything in between: Marie Rebel (seriously the first one who notices when I’m gone and when I…

  • Experience,  Photography

    Prayer

    I’m not an especially religious sort, but I do pray from time to time. I guess it’s more of a sending out of intentions or energy, or a request for strength or guidance in times of confusion or frustration or despair, rather than a conversation with a God. Though I suppose I’ve had plenty of those, too, over the years. Prayer to me is contemplation, so in many ways, what I do here is prayer. I throw my thoughts out to the universe, and sometimes the universe talks back. Prayer was the topic for today’s #SubmissiveAdvent. The entry for today provides this: Allow me the strength to answer questions I…

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