Experience

  • Blogging & Writing,  Experience

    Yes and No

    “In the degree that we remember and retell our stories and create new ones, we become the authors, the authorities, of our own lives.” – Sam Keen     I think about the purpose of writing quite often. To communicate, to document, to keep track. Those are the obvious ones. When I wrote my masters thesis, a large part of my focus was “writing to learn.” That is often what I think journaling is all about…or at least what I believe it should be about. Not just documenting what happens, but digging. Writing until we uncover. Processing things as we go. Finding out what we think by writing our way there.…

  • Blogging & Writing,  Experience,  My EJC Responses,  Photography

    The inevitable slow down…

    “Furious activity is not substitute for understanding.” H.H. Williams     Last week’s review/preview was overwhelming, I know. For you…and for me. But, that’s how beginnings tend to be for me…fast, furious, manic…full of energy and possibility and want. And then reality slows my roll, and I find the cracks, the crevices, and the things that must change for my plans to be sustainable. I don’t necessarily over-plan. I just plan more than is necessary so I have room to move and choose what fits best. Now that I’ve lived my plans for a few weeks, I am tailoring them to fit “just right.” It’s a journey I take repeatedly throughout…

  • Erotic Journal Challenge,  Experience,  My EJC Responses

    3 things I appreciate about my lover

    I know I haven’t been posting quite as regularly this past several days. It was a rough week. We had a fairly serious situation at work mid-week, and it took all my bandwidth to attend to it, both professionally and emotionally. I really just needed to disconnect when I got home in the evenings, and yesterday, I spent the afternoon binge-watching a TV show (which I rarely do on my own). I’m feeling stable and rested now, though. So, I’m sure this coming week will be better. I’ll be putting a review/preview post out later, probably tomorrow, since I’m off work. Better late than never, eh? But today, I wanted…

  • Experience

    Consistent

    My word for this year is CONSISTENT. It’s not a terribly creative word. Not very touchy-feely either like my last one…Vulnerability.  But it’s where I’m at. I have a tendency to cycle, in pretty much ever facet of my life. I start things and don’t finish, I commit to things and give up. Sometimes, that is honestly okay. Not everything in life must be completed. In fact, sometimes it makes good sense to drop things or walk away. But a few areas in my life deserve more from me. And those are the places where I need to apply a more dedicated mindset.     Never confuse action with movement.…

  • Erotic Journal Challenge,  Experience,  My EJC Responses,  Photography

    The Sex Life I Crave

    If I were to describe the sex life I’ve had in the past, the words I’d use would be all over the board. Vanilla/non-monogamous, safe/adventurous, unsatisfying/delicious, boring/mind-blowing. I’ve had all types of sex, in all kinds of situations, with many different people in the past 29 years. In my marriage, even, sex has worn many hats. It has been a positive force, a stress, an intimate connection, a creative process, an adventure, a weight…but always a journey. I expect that it will continue to be all of these things, and more, as we age together ungracefully, as we are most likely to do. I don’t want to put a ton…

  • Blogging & Writing,  Experience

    A Journey of a Thousand Miles…

    “A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” – Lao-tzu     So, I’m planning on doing some weekly and monthly reviews here on the blog, to keep myself accountable to all those intentions/goals I set for myself, both for the blog and in my personal life. This is my first one. And it is super link-heavy.   Accomplishments   I’ve accomplished a lot on the blog this past week: My post “What Feels Good?” was selected in the Sinful Sunday round-up. I took part in TMI Tuesday for the 1st time in a long time. My post “Looking Back to Plan Forward” was selected for the Wicked…

  • Experience

    Threesome?

    I’m coming back to the quote I shared yesterday…   I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something. – Neil Gaiman   …because it relates directly to a current opportunity. While I am not intending to make a mistakes, taking risks and trying new things can result in mistakes, and the fear of making mistakes can hold us back from even trying new things. Learning, pushing myself, sliding outside my…

  • Experience

    Looking Back to Plan Forward

    I always look back when I plan. Knowing where I’ve been, what I’ve experienced, and how that has turned out helps me to make decisions about what to do differently in the future, as well as what not to change.   What you are not changing, you are choosing. – David Richo   Over the past few years, my goal has really been to whittle my overfull plate down to those things that actually “work” and dispense with what doesn’t in every area of my life. To pare down and simplify routines so they are manageable, effective, and make me happy. Because I’m the sort of person who is easily…

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