Erotic Journal Challenge
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The inevitable slow down…
“Furious activity is not substitute for understanding.” H.H. Williams Last week’s review/preview was overwhelming, I know. For you…and for me. But, that’s how beginnings tend to be for me…fast, furious, manic…full of energy and possibility and want. And then reality slows my roll, and I find the cracks, the crevices, and the things that must change for my plans to be sustainable. I don’t necessarily over-plan. I just plan more than is necessary so I have room to move and choose what fits best. Now that I’ve lived my plans for a few weeks, I am tailoring them to fit “just right.” It’s a journey I take repeatedly throughout…
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3 things I appreciate about my lover
I know I haven’t been posting quite as regularly this past several days. It was a rough week. We had a fairly serious situation at work mid-week, and it took all my bandwidth to attend to it, both professionally and emotionally. I really just needed to disconnect when I got home in the evenings, and yesterday, I spent the afternoon binge-watching a TV show (which I rarely do on my own). I’m feeling stable and rested now, though. So, I’m sure this coming week will be better. I’ll be putting a review/preview post out later, probably tomorrow, since I’m off work. Better late than never, eh? But today, I wanted…
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The Sex Life I Crave
If I were to describe the sex life I’ve had in the past, the words I’d use would be all over the board. Vanilla/non-monogamous, safe/adventurous, unsatisfying/delicious, boring/mind-blowing. I’ve had all types of sex, in all kinds of situations, with many different people in the past 29 years. In my marriage, even, sex has worn many hats. It has been a positive force, a stress, an intimate connection, a creative process, an adventure, a weight…but always a journey. I expect that it will continue to be all of these things, and more, as we age together ungracefully, as we are most likely to do. I don’t want to put a ton…
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State of the Union
I’ve done a State of the Union post at the beginning of the year before. Just a description of where my sex life and marriage is today…to get the lay of the land, so to speak. It’s hard to decide where to go next if you aren’t fully aware of where you are now and where you’ve been…and we’ve been a lot of places. Currently, we’re getting back on the horse, after a long stint of slowly falling apart. I’ve only recently reviewed that, so I won’t rehash it here. But, we are currently doing okay 👍. We’ve had sex a few times (instigated from both sides) and have agreed…
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What Feels Good?
Anyone who follows Yoga With Adriene will recognize this saying and Benji the blue heeler. Let’s just say I’m a fan of all three…the yoga, the thought, and the dog. Hence, I had to have the t-shirt. I’m still not back to work yet, which means, I’m still avoiding bras and real pants. Occasionally, though, I head out for an *adventure* to the post office or the grocery store. Today, it’s the nail salon. So this is as close to a real bra as I’m getting. And, of course, yoga pants…and my insulated, waterproof Bogs, because SNOW ❄. *** Comfort is the name of the game…
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The Erotic Journal Challenge 2022
As I have noted in several posts the past week or so, CONSISTENCY is one of my focuses for this year. I have a tendency, like many others (raise your hand if you’re in the I-make-big-plans-and-then-fizzle-out-on-keeping-then club), to commit to too many things or create projects that I simply can’t complete or stop caring about over time. I tried to keep that in mind with my blog plans this year. I’ve committed to 3 things: a photography challenge, flash fiction, and an erotic journal. Now, the journal is basically just the personal narrative core of this website, so I’m really just re-commiting to doing a better job of posting regularly.…
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Is masturbation selfish?
Welcome to The Erotic Journal Challenge! If you’ve never participated, make sure to glance at the rules. This week, share your opinion: Is masturbation selfish? I recently read a post that posited that if you are in a relationship, masturbation is selfish, because it takes sexual energy away from the person you should be dedicating it to. Hmmm… I was intrigued by the topic, so I figured I would send it out to you for consideration. What do you think? NOTE: Please take a moment to read the rules. The Erotic Journal Challenge encourages writers to really dig deep and share some pretty personal stuff. So I want everyone to know that they…
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What are your thoughts on gender and sexual identity?
Welcome to The Erotic Journal Challenge! If you’ve never participated, make sure to glance at the rules. This week, consider your thoughts on sexual identity and gender. Take it any direction you’d like, but here are some questions that might help to get the thoughts flowing: How do you feel about gender roles as they apply to you? Do you believe in gender and sexuality scales? Labels? How were you taught or guided as a young person to embrace sexual identity and/or gender? (Or how do you guide your own children?) How has culture changed in regard to sexual identity and gender? And how has this affected you? What gender…
