• Experience

    Lessons from the Mat: Floating

    Have you ever let yourself float on the top of moving water, in a pool or on the lake? I know some people who have grown up swimming on a regular basis might not get what I’m describing here, but for the rest of us…have you ever had that sudden panic feeling in your stomach when the water threatens to pull your body under or a wave splashes against and over your face? If you fight it, your body will sink. If you ride it, your body will just keep floating. For me, the pull and the splash are often too much to endure; I naturally fight it. And, as…

  • Experience

    Lessons from the Mat: The Paradox of Intimacy

    Often at the beginnings of my yoga classes, the instructors read passages from books or share quotes that might help us to look inward or set particular intentions for out practice that day. This week, one of the readings was from The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo. It is called “Swimming in Our Love.” It’s short, just a minute or two. I’ll quickly read the passage to you, so I don’t have to type the whole thing out. Some notable ideas from the passage that struck me, personally were: –New relationship energy is thing. –Time slows that energy, but that is when deepest intimacy can take hold, because we…

  • Experience

    Lessons from the Mat: All You Ever Have

    Eckhart Tolle is commonly referenced in my yoga studio, and this is one of the quotes that recently made it into one of our restorative classes. I wouldn’t want to focus on it too often or too much, lest it lead to anxiety over possible loss of what I have, but I think being intentional about my awareness of just how fleeting life can be is not a bad exercise. I have a tendency to take for granted the life I have, even though I practice near daily gratitude (5 Minute Journal). It’s easy to get lost in the day-to-day and the to-do lists. Every once in awhile, I take…

  • Opinion

    Soul Mate

    People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up,…

  • My EPC Responses,  Poetry

    My life in haiku

    As you’ve likely noticed, I’ve basically been MIA for most of August and September; and while it isn’t unheard of for me to sort of disappear the first weeks of a school year as my priorities shift and wriggle and find their way into a new balance (or imbalance, as the case may be), I feel a bit guilty for sort of dropping my baby project in the water and letting it learn to swim on its own. Thankfully, it’s clumsily treading water. I’m just barely starting to feel a sense of calm, but I’m still struggling with the technological aspects of my new situation. Since I’m now working remotely,…

  • Brigit's Favorite Things,  February Photofest 2020

    My Favorite February Photofest Images (week 3)

    Month-long memes can be tough to keep up with. I’ve struggled to come up with new content, and now that we are down to the last few days, I’m honestly running out of steam. It’s also tough to keep up with all the great posts from others who are playing along. I’ve managed to do it, but I have to admit that I am looking forward to the slower pace of March. I’ve had little time to actually write this month, as I’ve been so focused on the images. It’s fun to have a new focus from time to time, and it’s turning out that I will likely have a…

  • Experience

    How I Plan My Goals & Schedule in 6 Steps

    I never like to presume that I know how to do something better than someone else. What works for me isn’t always what will work for you. But, I’ve had a few twitter DMs and emails that have me thinking that this post might be necessary and valuable for some. My Resources: First, you need to know the resources I have accessed over the years to gain the background knowledge that I use for my process. I’ve read a lot of books on this topic, and these are the ones that I have consistently relied upon. I prefer audiobooks for this because…well…I don’t have a lot of time, and Iike…

  • Experience

    A “30 Days of Yoga” Challenge You Will Love!

    And you can start today! This is not an affiliate of mine…though I would love for it to be and will be working on it this month. I’m never sure how non-sex-related companies and organizations will feel about having their brands shared on a sex blog like this. Anyhow…the 30 Day Program starts today (she does a new one every January to challenge us to get back to the mat). Adriene is a great yoga instructor (and her dog is adorable – wandering around as he pleases in the background). It’s all very down-to-earth and made available for every level of yogi. No need to feel intimidated if you’ve never…

  • Blogging & Writing,  My EJC Responses

    Blog Goals for 2020

    Theme for 2020: Mindfulness I’ve got a lot of big plans for the blog this year, but it all boils down to the way I really want to feel and my personal priorities. I want to feel mindful, present, and connected, rather than my normal “distracted, distant, and disconnected.” I want to feel sensual, inspired, and restored (for more information on how I narrowed my “core desired feelings” down to these, see Desire Mapping.) I’m a planner by necessity.  In order to organize my thoughts, I have to plan. And to plan, I have to consider my priorities (relationships and health). From there, I have to list everything that must…

  • Experience,  Photography

    Thank You

    Today’s #SubmissiveAdvent topic is gratitude…specifically saying thank you to someone who has helped me on my journey. So I’ve decided to give some shout outs to those from whom I have learned the most. Many of these people, I continue to learn from, through their writing/experiences. Conquer Me – Kacie Cunningham (the first book I read on submission…and one I go back to, time and time again) submissiveguide.com submissy.com LovingBDSM’s 30 Days of D/s Writerly readers who have stuck with me and supported me through presence and absence, creative highs and lows, and everything in between: Marie Rebel (seriously the first one who notices when I’m gone and when I…

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