“A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” – Lao-tzu
So, I’m planning on doing some weekly and monthly reviews here on the blog, to keep myself accountable to all those intentions/goals I set for myself, both for the blog and in my personal life. This is my first one. And it is super link-heavy.
I’ve accomplished a lot on the blog this past week:
- My post “What Feels Good?” was selected in the Sinful Sunday round-up.
- I took part in TMI Tuesday for the 1st time in a long time.
- My post “Looking Back to Plan Forward” was selected for the Wicked Wednesday round-up.
- I wrote one piece of flash fiction and a total of 6 posts, not counting the #flashfictionfriday prompt post.
- I have posted EVERY DAY this week.
- I linked-up to 4 memes this week: Sinful Sunday, Wicked Wednesday, Snake Den A-Z, and January Jump Start.
- I wrote specifically to four of this week’s Erotic Journal Challenge prompts, but I am adding another at the bottom of this post, and I have plans to hit the other one I missed. Plus this post addresses the prompt for Saturday and Sunday. That means I will have hit them all in one way or another!
- I set up all of January’s Erotic Journal prompts.
- I set up a page to explain how to write a weekly review and plan ahead (for the EJC Saturday/Sunday prompts).
- I submitted a piece of flash fiction to E-lust (my first submission in months).
- And I upped my game in connecting with others via social media and blog comments.
- I finished updating the look of my blog, my Medium site, and my podcast site.
I know I won’t be able to keep up this kind of momentum, but it’s nice to leave the gate with energy and intention!
I also cut my Twitter follows by 20, gained 6 followers on Instagram, and gained 20 subscribers on the blog. Yay!! Not that this is my WHY, or makes much difference in the content that I produce, BUT, it’s nice that what I’m putting out in the world is being noticed and appreciated. Having followers for the EJC also holds me accountable to the practice of posting journal prompts, so that’s kind of necessary.
I’ve accomplished a bit in my personal life, as well:
- I changed/simplified my morning routine. I still let out the dogs and let in the cat, enjoy coffee while snuggled up with the cat, do a quick review of the day before and day to come, list all the things that felt good the prior day (I’ve traded this practice up from keeping a gratitude list), update the EJC prompt, and if I have time check my social media. 50 Ideas to Help You Design Your Perfect Morning Routine
- I updated my yearly goals and set up my digital journal to reflect these changes. I use this journal in the morning in conjunction with my Google calendar (which I time-block to ensure balance between what I have to do, what I want to do, and what I need to do).
- I initiated sex once.
- I removed His work boots once (I missed yesterday because I was too slow to the bathroom where he was taking off His uniform).
- I did not wear panties on Friday, even though I’m pretty sure He didn’t notice that I respected our “No-panty Friday” expectation.
- I made a conscious effort to ask Him what I could do for Him or get for Him when I was up in an attempt to bring the service element back to our relationship.
- I read.
- I reflected long and hard about the possibility of a threesome and re-engaging in non-monogamous extra-curricular activities.
What didn’t go well?
- My health goals: I drank too much. And I only met my step goal two days and my daily activity goal three days. That’s what happens when I’m not at work. Snow days bring on the lazy. I did nap, but I only met my sleep goal three times. And I didn’t drink enough water any day. I have gained a few pounds as a result of all of this.
- We only had sex once this past week (I did, however, initiate it…and it was good.)
What did I notice/learn?
- A change in routine can derail my progress, so I need to plan ahead for those.
- I need to initiate more to get our sex life back on track.
- I had to let go of a few plans, as I had made things a bit more complicated than necessary. I have to remember I only have so much time in a day, and if I over-plan, I cause myself anxiety and stress, which lead to unhealthy outcomes in every aspect of my life.
- Having the Erotic Journal Challenge has helped me to focus my posts, get back on track with the blog, and has given me the opportunity to blend other memes in with my own content, without feeling like I’m simply writing to a prompt. Somehow, I think the EJC is going to save me as a writer/blogger and allow me to re-focus what I’m trying to do here on the blog. Funny, too, that I almost bagged the project and only decided to revive it in the final week of December. Smart move, Brigit! Smart move.
Plans for the upcoming week:
- Today is our marriage talk day. We’ll be discussing the possibility of the aforementioned threesome and our slow return to D/s normality. And then I’ll do the work necessary to actively move forward in both areas of our sex life.
- Publish to Medium.
- Upload to the Podcast.
- Keep up with the EJC, #BrigitUnwrapped, and a few select memes (I’m still deciding which ones, as prompts are not all out yet). I’m doing a decent job of combining prompts to create original content without bending myself around others’ ideas or letting the blog’s feel and personality become too loose. While I don’t like to hedge myself in, I also like to keep this space mainly focused on sex, marriage, and erotica.
- Flash Fiction Friday: Snowball Fight!
- Mind: keep reading (see my sidebar for the books I’m currently working through – my goal is two books per month…this month it’s The Invisible Life of Addie Larue and Honor, two VERY different styles and topics, but they are both completely delicious. Addie Larue is slower and is more like magical realism/fantasy. And Honor is about modern day India…a journalist covering honor killings and coming to terms with tradition.)
- Body: move more, sleep more, and hydrate more.
One EJC prompt I put off for this week was: If your sex/love life had a theme song, what would it be. It was a toss up between these two. The first is from Chris Stapleton, who is my current favorite new artist. I don’t buy albums often, but this is one I have on my list. His voice is so classic. Kind of reminds me of the feeling I get when listening to Van Morrison.
I like this song for our theme song, not because we plan to pick up and move anywhere. We’ve struggled over the years, mainly with our sex life. His high drive, my low one. His desire for adventure, my desire for security and comfort. His need to be Dominant, my difficulty in being a submissive. I appreciate the message “let’s jump in the water and see what floats” in relation to our journey forward together. That relaxed – let’s just see where this takes us – approach.
It don’t matter to me
Wherever we are is where I wanna be
And, honey, for once in our life
Let’s take our chances and roll the dice
I can be your lucky penny
You can be my four-leaf clover
This might not be an easy time
There’s rivers to cross and hills to climb
Some days we might fall apart
And some nights might feel cold and dark
When nobody wins afraid of losing
And the hard roads are the ones worth choosing
Some day we’ll look back and smile
And know it was worth every mile
And the second song is “Earned It” by The Weekend. This is sexy song, I think. I chose this one because it embodies what I want to live up to. These are the shoes I want to fill as His lover. I mean, I know He loves me and wants me and believes I’m sexy and beautiful. He says it and shows it in a multitude of ways. But, I haven’t been the best lover. I want to Earn It. To be this girl, who does things that are unexpected. That spoils my man and makes Him feel lucky to have me.
The song is on the Fifty Shades of Grey soundtrack. And while this is not an especially great representation of D/s, the song still puts me in the headspace that active submission earns active Dominance (and vice versa). We earn each other by continually working to please one another and care for one another.
So I love when you call unexpected
‘Cause I hate when the moment’s expected
So I’ma care for you, you, you
I’ma care for you, you, you, you, yeah
‘Cause girl you’re perfect
You’re always worth it
And you deserve it
The way you work it
‘Cause girl you earned it