This #EroticJournalChallenge prompt will run for two weeks:
Describe your love map.
Lovemap: A developmental representation or template in the mind and in the brain depicting the idealized lover, the idealized love affair, and the idealized program of sexuoerotic activity projected in imagery or actually engaged in with that lover. – John Money
I’m taking this prompt from Joan Mazza’s Exploring Your Sexual Self. According to Mazza, “Each of us has a unique lovemap…we each know what kind of people we find attractive, how we like to be approached and aroused, and the circumstances we find sexually alluring…we know what we consider sexy or romantic.” She says, “You can think of your lovemap as all that you find sexually captivating, exciting, and interesting. It includes what you think about when you anticipate being sexual, what you would like to do alone or with your partner, and where and when you’d like to do it. It also includes what you think about during a sexual encounter, which may be the fantasies that turn you on or trigger your orgasm,” even those you may not really want to do in real life.
For this writing activity, you may consider your past sexual experience, sexual identity, sex roles, sexual orientation/preferences, and the origins of your sexual interests.
You may also consider this concept. According to Mazza, “Our lovemaps change as our lives change–as we age, change directions in our lives, have different interests and concerns, and as our bodies change. What may have been exciting and part of our regular sexual repertoire at one point in our lives may be absent or unthinkable at another. We can choose some of these changes, such as monogamy…or a particular sexual behavior to please a particular partner. Other changes come with age or health problems, such as reduction in sexual desire.”
You may choose to create a graphic representation of your love map:
Extra Credit: Share your lovemap with your partner(s)…and encourage them to make their own and share it with you.
NOTE: Please take a moment to read the rules. The Erotic Journal Challenge encourages writers to really dig deep and share some pretty personal stuff. So I want everyone to know that they are welcome and that this is a judgement-free zone. All writers are safe to share their beliefs and experiences. Journaling is a way to learn and grow and question and change, and we should all feel safe to explore ourselves with fear.
You can also see upcoming prompts on the main #EroticJournalChallenge page.
Note: You don’t have to follow the prompt. If you have an introspective, reflective post that you want to share, it can be about any topic…or no topic at all.
Highlighted Post from the last prompt: “My early memories of sexual experience & their impact on the sexual being I have become” by Master’s Pleasing Bitch
“Our early fumblings were just that. Neither of us know any of the how’s, but we were actually happy to explore each other’s bodies without feeling the need to go all the way. Our in experience meant nothing and we just enjoyed ourselves. However as time went on our lack of knowledge probably helped establish some of our problems. That and the dogma of my parents that you don’t touch yourself or others and don’t talk about sex.”
Head on in to the link party to share your posts or read what others have shared (link-up is open from Sunday to Sunday, noon/PST):