*This image was originally created for #boobday and Lingerie is for Everyone.
Well, it looks like #boobday may have imploded, which makes me sad. Violet Fawkes is an amazing writer, and I’m sad to see her go (if indeed that is her decision). It means the end of Lingerie is for Everyone, too. Which is also sad. But then, social media eats people. I’ve seen a lot of casualties of this over my blogging years, especially in the last year.
I guess that’s what happens when things become bigger. Take a look at any city. As it grows…the problems within it do, too. That’s just human nature. Various opinions lead to conflict. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, it just is. What makes it bad is that too many people can’t deal with conflict in positive ways, and so the whole thing goes up in flames.
I make a point of padding my world and protecting myself as a blogger (and in my real life). It takes quite a bit of time, but it’s worth it for my peace of mind. I follow those I want to, not because someone says I can or can’t or should or shouldn’t. The joy of having curated reading lists on social media means I never hear about what I “should” or “shouldn’t” do, because I don’t read those tweets/posts. It’s akin to moving out of that big city I just mentioned and becoming a hermit in the hills. I come down for my paper and a cup of coffee and some groceries once in a while, but other than that, I keep to myself.
Every so often, something breaks through my social media wall, and I’m quick to put a stop to it. Some might say I’ve created my own little echo chamber, and I wouldn’t disagree. I don’t go to social media for my news or my world information (ummm, that would be dumb). I go there to connect with people who make me happy. And that means liberally hacking away at what I see.
Social media has, indeed, given a voice to the voiceless. And in some ways that is a good thing. But when everyone is talking over one another, it’s hard to hear the things that really matter.
I know some might criticize me for pulling away rather than “fighting the good fight.” But my idea of the “good fight” just isn’t the same as many others’. I come here to write. Not to change the world. I’ll leave that to those who have the time and energy to put into it. I’m changing the world in my own little way in my own life, in person, with the people I actually see with my own eyes and touch with my own hands.
I’ve got a small list of people I interact with here. It means my blog isn’t growing the way it could, if I was willing to lay myself on the alter of the social media demon and sacrifice myself. But I’m not.
So here I am…in my small corner of the internet, which is still small…and still happy. I had high hopes awhile back…about working towards a money-making blog. But after trying it for a year, and realizing just how much of myself I was going to have to sell out, I changed my mind and pulled back.
I think I’ve found the sweet spot.