Community isn’t necessarily what you construct (though that has a little to do with it). Community is what naturally occurs when people are left to their own devices.
You can WANT to be friends with someone, but if they don’t want to be friends with you – well, it ain’t gonna happen.
So yesterday, I sat down to really figure out who my community is. I looked at who liked my posts and who commented on them more than a few times. I also looked at my social media accounts wrote down who interacted with me the most. Not all of these people are bloggers, so when I created my community blog roll, it didn’t include everyone on my list. So, I also made sure to create a Top Reads list on my twitter account that includes all of those folks with blogs, plus all of those without.
I posted the blog roll on my blog and now have an easily accessible reading list both there and on my social media accounts.
Sifting through thousands of accounts took a little time and effort, but I think it was worth it, and that I will reap the reward. It made it much clearer who I was aiming to reach out to and why, and who was reaching back and why.
A very valuable and valid way to spend my Saturday.
I walked away with a better sense of what matters to me online and who/what fills my cup when I’m here. I look for conversation, positivity, honesty, vulnerability, connection, and growth. People who make me think. People who make me laugh. People who make me feel like I’m part of something bigger than myself.
You probably know who you are. But, if you are reading this, your in! If I’ve left your blog off of my blog roll, please let me know. I’d gladly add you. (see the sidebar or scroll down if on mobile)
I’ve also noted the memes I most enjoy. I don’t always manage to post for these memes but they’re worth looking into if you need a little writing inspiration.
I look forward to continuing and deepening this relationship of ours.