I don’t watch porn very often, but I found myself questioning why that is yesterday, after seeing the prompt for “4 Thoughts or Fiction.”

In fact, my brain went down a bit of a rabbit hole on the subject, following my go-to reflection questions: who, what, where, when, why, and how?

Why and When

So, why do I watch porn? I usually watch it when I’m already turned on. Porn, for me takes away the thought…it does the thinking for me, providing images, and sometimes sound to fill my brain while I fuck myself. It can also be the impetus when I’m not already turned on and need a quick ignite.

What and Who

I almost always have an idea of what I want to see, too. If I’m honest this is my basic go-to search history: chubby, anal, cunnilingus, female masturbation, squirting. I don’t really care much about the configuration of sexes and genders. I can just as easily watch two women or two men as a man and a woman. It’s more about what they are doing to each other’s sexual parts than anything else. I mean, it’s porn. No one goes there for the story. I can also say, it’s easy to decide what I don’t like. For example, I can’t stand watching blow jobs…and that cancels out quite a bit of porn.

When

Like I mentioned above. I don’t watch porn much.  I tend to prefer erotic films, still erotic images, or erotic stories if I need or want a little nudge.

But I think I may be doing porn a disservice. Porn has a definite purpose, and I do find it arousing when I watch it. So why don’t I watch more of it?

Maybe I should.

Because something porn can do is give us a better sense of what turns us on, and that information can be used in real life, with real partners. While I’d never suggest using porn to learn how to have sex (please, please no), it can aide in our understanding of our own kinks and sexual interests. If something turns us on, we can reflect on it…why? what is it about that act or scene that does it for us?

Exploring the world of porn with a partner has the potential to be fun, sexy, and hilarious, as well.

Where

So, I decided then and there to give it a go…in the shower. I put in my search: chubby, anal. And then clicked through some vids, fast-forwarded to the good part, and well…yeah.

I think porn has a place in my sexual tool box. I haven’t given it a fair opportunity.