Today is the Winter Solstice, the longest night of the year, and the night that marks the return of the sun – in effect, tonight is the sun’s birthday…and that is certainly something to celebrate. (Of course, in the Pacific Northwest, our worst weather tends to come in January and February, but at least spring is in sight and 2020 – this fucking dumpster fire of a year – will be behind us.)
The majority of our Christian holiday traditions during this season are taken from the Pagan celebrations of Yule and the Solstice. And as I’m not a Christian, I do tend to prefer thinking of this season in terms of the Winter Solstice, as a time of rebirth and beginnings. We always put up a tree, and we decorate with Santas and elves and greenery. We watch holiday movies and enjoy cookies and presents and a big family dinner on Christmas day. In fact, I really love this time of year. But then, I have good memories attached to it, and I know that not everyone does.
My birthday is half-way between Solstice and Christmas, so the feeling of new beginnings is sort of compounded because of that, too – not to mention that New Year’s is right around the corner!
I’m off work at this time for Winter Break. It gives me a moment to get my house in order, rest, and rejuvenate. This break, I am writing and reading and doing yoga…reflecting and making plans for the new year. I’m not big on resolutions (I don’t like setting myself up for failure), but I like the energy that planning for the future can infuse me with. So I make goals in regards to health and writing and reading and relationships.
This year, as with those in the near past, my aim is simplicity and manageability. I’ve chosen my focus words (mindfulness, simplicity, connection, and vulnerability) and have chosen my theme/s for the blog (vulnerability/submission).
I’ve been working on the blog’s appearance over the past month, and even though I’m having email/subscription issues (which means interaction/comments are down), I feel I’ve been doing some pretty good writing, gearing up for this new year and the goals I have set for myself.
I plan to continue with the Erotic Journal Challenge. This year’s theme will be CELEBRATIONS, and I think it will be great fun to see what everyone comes up with! I’m retiring the Erotic Poetry Challenge for lack of interest (though I promise to do something fun for National Poetry Month in April). I am also adding an Erotic Book Club (one sexy book per month – the first is a novella titled The Naughty List) and a monthly feature called Toy Stories, where I will be writing a story involving a sex toy (it will be more fun than simply writing a review). I’ve done a poor job with my podcast this year, so I aim to upload at least one story each month to Brigit’s Erotic Bedtime Stories.
I’ll continue to work in some of my peers’ memes, as a way to connect and appreciate the work of others. Blogging is a social activity, and I’ve not done as well with that these past few months as I would have liked. Things got crazy in the world of sex-blogging, and I sort of intentionally backed away to stay out of it all. It seemed there was a push to pick sides, and I really wanted nothing to do with any of that. I will support those who have supported me, and I harbor no ill will against any who have not harmed me. I’ll continue to hold that belief and reap the consequences as must.
I’ll be reading more, resting more, hydrating more, doing more yoga, getting in more steps, drinking less, and writing as much as possible. It can be hard to do all of that when I’m going to school on top of my regular work, being a mom, and attempting to be a better submissive partner to my husband…but the goal is always some sort of give and take that creates a semblance of balance between want to and have to.
What goals have you set for yourself this year? If you’re a blogger/writer, do you have plans to try something new? Many of us write “goal” posts this time of year…feel free to link yours in the comments, so I can read what you plan to do in 2021!
Happy Winter Solstice!