We all have proclivities, preferences, and prejudices…things we are drawn to, things that make us turn away or even disgust us.
What do you tend to fantasize or dream about when it comes to sex? What kinds of porn or kink are you drawn to? What turns you off?
I fantasize about things that are romantic and passionate and that involve a lot of touching and kissing and creative foreplay. And, I’ll be honest, I’m usually at the center of my fantasies, receiving, rather than giving…having things done to me or for me.
For example, a fantasy of mine is to be bathed and rubbed and lotioned and fucked slowly and sensually while I’m blindfolded. I wouldn’t have a clue who was doing what, and that is part of the erotic appeal.
I don’t dream about sex much, but when I do, it usually involves people I’ve already fucked. The majority of the time, the focal point is my husband, probably because that is the knowledge and experience that is closest to me. I’m not a real “out of the box” thinker when it comes to sex, so it makes sense that even my subconscious mind would stay where it is most comfortable.
These dreams tend to happen when our sex life is on, and I often wake up raring to go with a little morning sex or masturbation.
I don’t watch porn very often. I’m turned off my the terrible acting and music, but I do occasionally watch amateur porn clips. When I do, I’m drawn to curvy, “chubby” women (likely because I see myself in them) and either M/F or F/F. A solo F masturbation scene can sometimes do the trick, too. Anal, PIV, or cunnilingus are my go to’s. And the only time I watch it is when I’m masturbating.
My kink is D/s…a bit of impact play, hair pulling, choking, sensory deprivation. But once again…I like things done to me. I’m not much of a giver or doer. And I’m starting to realize that this may be a bit problematic in my relationship. It’s impossible to be a good sub without being a giver. So it’s something I will have to work on in the coming days, weeks, months, and years. I like to be used, but he likes to be pleasured, as most any human would. And he deserves to be treated as well as I do, with all his kink buttons being pushed in just the right ways.
How about you? What are your preferences?