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Welcome to my EROBLOPOMO theme for 2020 (and my Erotic Journal Challenge for November)! I’ll be selecting a “dirty” question to answer every day. And once I have the full list of questions (at the end of the challenge), I’ll post that and keep it somewhere on the site so you can access the questions and use them for your own “dirty” purposes. I will also post the questions daily on twitter, so if you want to use the same questions on your own site, you are more than welcome!

Keep in mind…I don’t actually find asking any questions “dirty,” (which sort of implies that they are wrong in some way). I just like how it rolls off the tongue. These questions will all be about sex in some way and will be the sorts of questions that get a the core of a person’s desires, fears, and experiences. The sorts of questions that could really help you get to know another person.

If you’d like to use the list, go right ahead! I spent a lot of time searching for just the right questions.

Because I only have the free version of InLinkz, I can only have 2 link-up parties going at once. So, this month, if you don’t want to do EROBLOPOMO, but you’d like to link up a post for the Erotic Journal Challenge, simply link your post in the comments below. Maybe you want to do all 30 questions with me (in which case, why wouldn’t you link them up for EROBLOPOMO?). Or maybe you just want to answer a few. And that is just as cool! I will be sure to link them in this post properly (with an image) as long as you post them in the comments section.

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The Questions

If you’ve answered these questions or covered these topics on your blog before, consider them in a new way, or use a new genre to approach the subject. Your post doesn’t have to be an answer to the question. It could be a story, a poem, a photo, a collage, a list. There are infinite ways to share your thoughts on these topics.

Answer them in any order. Just check them off as you go!

Question 1: How do you define “awesome” sex (i.e. what makes sex better than good)?

Question 2: How do you feel about PDA? (You can take this as far as “kinks in public,” too.)

Question 3: What are your sure-fire turn-ons (and/or turn-offs)?

Question 4: What do you think about when you masturbate?

Question 5: What are your thoughts about porn?

Question 6: What are your thoughts on foreplay? Favorite types? Best experiences? Wishes?

Question 7: What parts of your lover’s body are you most drawn to? (If you don’t currently have a lover, feel free to consider past or future lovers.)

Question 8: Consider a moment in your life of great sensuality, eroticism, or sexuality. Then answer the questions that Mary Oliver does in her poem “Gratitude” as they apply to that moment.

Question 9: If you were to “recreate” the early days of your favorite sexy relationship,  what would they look like? Would you change anything?

Question 10: What do you want more of in your sex life?

Question 11: Would you ever visit a sex therapist? What would be the reason and what do you think their advice would be for you?

Question 12: Is there anything about sex that embarrasses you, causes shame or fear, or makes you nervous? Or…what’s the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you during sex?

Question 13: What do you tend to fantasize or dream about when it comes to sex? What kinds of porn or kink are you drawn to?

Question 14: If you were to create a sexy playlist intended for a hot date at home, what would be on it?

Question 15: What are your love languages and how do they apply to your sexual needs? What about your lover?

Question 16: How do you feel about being naked?

Question 17: What’s your favorite way to be seduced?

Question 18: Do you have any trust issues surrounding sex or your sexual relationship(s)?

Question 19: What do you look like, and sound like, when sex feels good for you?

Question 20: What is the most sexually daring thing you’ve ever done?

Question 21: In your opinion, what does it mean to be good in bed?

Question 22: Have you ever had sex in a public place?

Question 23: When and how did you lose your virginity, and how did you feel about it? How do you feel about it now?

Question 24: Have you ever had sex with more than one person at a time, watched others have sex, been watched? If not, would you?

Question 25: How often do you masturbate and what works best for you?

Question 26: What are you most grateful or thankful for in your sex life?

Question 27: What is your favorite sexual position, and why?

Question 28: Have you ever had an “inappropriate” crush? What was it about that person that drew you in, and what made it “not okay”?

Question 29: Have you (or would you) ever tried role play? What roles are you drawn to?

Question 30: Are you more dominant or submissive (or a bit of both)?