I and you are separate people, be we is an entity all to itself. Which is why a fill-in-the-blank statement involving I and we would be different than one involving I and you.
I am _________ becuase we are _________
is not that same as
I am _________ because you are _________
For example, I am happy because we are happy. I am an integral part of the we, so it makes sense for the state of we to impact directly the state of I. I am happy because you are happy is codependence…not interdepence. I am not happy because you are happy. I am happy in my own right. I might be happy that you are happy, but your state does not directly create mine. I create my own.
However, in an interdependent relationship where two beings are necessarily entwined as one in certain regards, there is an individual’s state and then the state of the union.
Therefore, when we are “happy” as a unit, I am more like to be happy myself.
I am happy as a direct result of our happiness.
I am happy because we are happy.
I am stable because we are stable.
I am satisfied because we are satisfied.
I live in a state of singularity and a state of union (simultaneously), and because of this I am dual and blessed. It is more complex, to be sure, but more fulfilling. It means a constant assessing of we, and a constant flow of energy in that direction.
I’m not saying I’m good at that. I’m not really. In fact, I find occasionally that —
I am off because we are off.
I am disconnected because we are disconnected.
I am unmotivated because we are unmotivated.
We are central, even though I am my own person with my own needs and feelings and ways of interpreting we, and likewise does he.
We also have shared and differing demands of we. Different dreams and fantasies and wishes. And yet we compromise on what we is and what we means because there are two I’s at play here. Each I, however, carries the other I insIde of it. The we is constant.
ee cummings has long been one of my favorite poets. I love how he plays with language and his alternative views on humanity and connection. This is one of my favorite love poems, and I I always think of my Husband when I read it.
Listen to my read the poem HERE.
Marie’s prompt this week just got under my bones. I love the image and I love the possibility of that incomplete (or ever so complete) phrase. It sent me on this strange little loop of a post, but I hope my message is clear.
because we are…
because we are…
Quite existential, really.