• Brigit's Favorite Things

    The Desire Map Planner: Put Your Soul on the Agenda

    I’ve written about The Desire Map before, but as I just joined Danielle Laporte’s affiliate program, I wanted to take a moment to explain the product and why I support it.  I’m pretty choosy about the advertising I’m willing to do. From the products I test and review to the company’s I work with, I choose to support only those that fit with my own interests and values and will likely meet the needs and interests of my readers. So even though this is a sex blog, and even though this planner program (and related products) are not sex-related, I think these products belong here because they encourage introspection, goal-setting…

  • Reviews,  Sex Toy Sunday

    The Jeusn “Anal Dragon”

    Product as listed on the Bestvibe website: Jeusn Rechargeable Anal Plug Beads Vibrator Company: Bestvibe Bestvibe was founded on one core idea – that sex should be enjoyed without reservation, judgment, or guilt. We were determined to bring high quality products, the kinds of products our own staff use, to our customers in a casual, classy, safe, fun, informative, and sex-positive atmosphere. We believe that every one of us has a little bit of naughty inside just begging to be let out. We want to encourage you to enjoy your sexuality, to play, to experiment – either by yourself or with your lover. Price: $34.99 Materials: silicone and non-toxic ABS,…

  • Photography

    Filtered, but only a little

    It describes this website to a T: filtered, but only a little. Of course, you don’t get the little details of my story that could give me away…no face pics…not names or places or things like that. I filter that stuff out to protect my identity and the people I love from the harm that could come from my uncovering. It’s a necessary evil for me and so many others who blog the way that I do. But, the part of my story that you do get is so much closer to truth in so many ways. While I don’t share every fear, I share my sexual fears. While I…

  • 30 Days of D/s,  Experience,  My EJC Responses,  Photography

    I finally finished “30 Days of D/s” (and it only took 9 months!)

    Yesterday, I sent Him a text: “It’s no-panty Friday and I’m itching for your cock…and your hand on my ass…” Along with this image (which I also posted on Twitter): He didn’t say anything about it, and we just hung out on the couch drinking coffee, reading, and waiting for the youngster to head off to the movies with His friend (something that is causing more and more of an obstruction to our sex life as he gets older and becomes more aware). I even headed off to do some chores and fuck around on the internet in my writing cave. When suddenly, this text appeared: “I don’t like waiting.”…

  • Erotic Journal Challenge

    The Erotic Journal Challenge: January 2020 – “Mindful”

    Click here for an in-depth definition of Mindfulness. My word for 2020 is MINDFUL, which is one major reason why I’m starting The Erotic Journal Challenge with it. Another is simply because the beginning of the year is a good time to BE mindful…to be fully present and grounded as we plan and prioritize for the coming year. This year, as I provide monthly themes, keep in mind that you can go in any direction with it that you want! You are not obligated to use the questions or topics that I suggest. But, if you need/want direction, I’ll posit multiple questions and ways of looking at the theme. If…

  • Experience

    Developing a Submissive Mindset: Tracking Rules

    I use Google Keep to track pretty much everything in my life. Since it’s on my phone (which goes with me everywhere) and provides a way to check items off and still save them as repeated tasks and put them back on the To Do list again, it works well for the routinized way I like to run things. I have notes for shopping, work, health, blogging, and even D/s. As you can see in this image… …there are things I’m focusing on (the unchecked items) and things that I feel I’ve got down to habit enough that I only need an occasional reminder (the checked items). I suppose some…

  • Experience,  Photography

    Developing a Submissive Mindset: Asking Permission

    Our D/s has been a little wonky for awhile, but in the last week, we’ve been getting ourselves back on track, just in time for the new year. Today was the first time in a long time I’ve asked permission to masturbate (one of my rules). I’m also supposed to send a photo to Him anytime I do so. This is what I sent Him: I try to avoid the close up pussy pics (though I’m sure He enjoys those, too), as they feel too pornographic to me. I would rather send evidence of a good time had…and appreciation for allowing me to have it. It felt good to ask.…

  • Fiction

    A Naughty Christmas Pudding

    It was a very gray day, indeed. Rain beat against the roof in fits and starts, sending Edward into a reverie of a time when he’d once convinced his young children that the sound was the pattering hooves of Santa’s reindeer. Those very children would be bringing their own children to dinner, and his lovely wife, Margery, was downstairs now making the whole house shine and smell of good things. His life was good, if not a little dull. Since retirement, he’d found himself occasionally wishing for something new to spark his interest. A new hobby, a new friend…something to whittle away a few hours before his evening shows came…

  • Reviews,  Sex Toy Reviews,  Sex Toy Sunday

    Pipedream’s Wall Banger Double Penetrator

    Hotcherry – Wall Bangers Vibrating Double Dildo $34.99 Product Details Measurements Length: 9 inches Insertable Length: 5.5 and 5 inches of insertable length Diameter: 4.5 and 3 inches Product Weight: 14.25 oz. Feeling Flexibility: Flexible Material: TPR/TPE, ABS plastic Color: Rose Texture: Smooth, ribbed, veined Waterproof: Waterproof Additional Info Controller Type: Dial control near base with multiple ascending vibration/speed settings Shape: Dual phallus Power Type: 2 x AA batteries (not included) Vibrating: Yes Body Safe: Yes, non-toxic, phthalate-free Use Lube: Yes, recommended Powerful: Yes I’m really unimpressed with this toy, and I’ve been putting off reviewing it, but I believe that even negative reviews are useful, for both my readers and the company from which I have received the product. After all, it isn’t the…

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