1. Do you express your sexual pleasure with moans, groans, sighs, and other noises (provided that you are actually turned on)?
a. Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time).
b. Yes, on most occasions (70-89% of the time).
c. Yes, on some occasions (40-69% of the time).
d. Yes, on a few occasions (less than 40% of the time).
e. No. Never, not even when I am really turned on.
a. Yes, each time I have sex…
I’d put myself in the “loud” category. I don’t full on scream or yell…I live in a smallish home where a child resides…so I’ve learned to keep my noises to a respectable volume. I can have sex without making noise, but I don’t like it. Not only is it difficult to stay quiet for me, I also feel it is a way of letting the other person know they what they are doing is working. I find it to be somewhat like cheer-leading or a gold star. But mostly, I make noise because I can’t help myself.
2. How comfortable are you with sex in bright light or daylight? Pick one.
a. Completely comfortable
b. Fairly comfortable
c. Somewhat comfortable/uncomfortable, depends on the partner.
d. Completely uncomfortable. I like to do it in the dark.
b. fairly comfortable
Years ago, I’d have answered this differently, but honestly, the older I get, the more accepting I become of my body. Making eye contact with the person I’m having sex with is important, and you can’t do that in the dark. Plus, I know that usually, guys like to “see” what’s happening. They tend to be visual, and if you force them to have sex in the dark all the time, it’s disappointing. Also, they aren’t as caught up with faults in the female form as the women who think they have them, or so my experience has taught me.
3. Is this statement True or False for you? Explain.
I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but I don’t dare for fear of being judged or ridiculed.
I’m not much of a dirty talker…(see my post about it here – “Talking Dirty”). I do try to say a few dirty things because I know they can be a turn on for my partner, but I’m not good at it and I usually feel silly when I do it.
4. Have you ever done a striptease for a lover (impromptu or planned)? Did you enjoy it?
I’m not an extroverted person…nor am I an exhibitionist or a performer. So, even though I have attempted striptease, I felt ridiculous doing it. It was practiced and planned…I even bought one of those “learn how to striptease” videos to learn how to do it correctly. But, even with guidance, I felt completely out of my element. It’s something I should probably revisit at some point, though, because – like I mentioned above – I know most men are pretty visual, and I also know that Mr. D would probably very much appreciate the effort, no matter how ridiculous I thought I looked.
5. How do you feel about giving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)? Pick one.
a. I enjoy it.
b. I’m okay with it.
c. I don’t really enjoy it.
d. I don’t enjoy it at all.
e. I have never given anal sex.
f. I have never given anal sex, but would like to start.
This is a hard one to answer. I could say “d” because several years ago, Mr. D and I tried having sex with a strap-on. But, having him on his hands and knees underneath me felt terribly wrong, considering our dynamic. He’s the dominant one, and nothing about fucking his ass with a strap-on felt right. But, I could also say “f” because I am interested in experimenting with some prostate stimulation, as discussed in this post here…”The Erotic Journal Challenge: Prostate Play.” The only issue with this is that, while Mr. D is rather keen on stimulating me anally, he’s a little reticent to be on the receiving end.