1. What makes you feel unloved?
I feel unloved when I’m left out of things…or when others do things they know annoy the fuck out of me…just because they are being careless…over and over and over (umm….i.e. socks next to the laundry bin). I also feel unloved when people don’t acknowledge special days (birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day).
2. What is the one act that a person can do that makes you feel loved?
It takes very little actually. My main love languages are “quality time” and “acts of service” (though, the other three are appreciated quite a bit, as well). I prefer someone spending time with me over buying me a gift or giving me something. And I very much appreciate when someone does something to take the load off of me: helping out around the house, offering a spontaneous foot rub or back massage, running errands.
3. What kind of music do you find romantic?
I think many genres of music can be romantic…but probably anything you could slow dance to. I prefer romantic country songs.
4. What do you find utterly unromantic?
97% of porn. Body odor. Juvenile behavior, in general. Stupidity. Pain.
5. What thing did you find out about your significant other that you decided to look past and go for a relationship?
He smoked. Though…I must admit, even that was part of the “bad boy” image that drew me in…it kind of “went” with the “Dwight Yoakam – the early years”/rockabilly look he had going on back then…and the motorcycles and hot rods…
Bonus: In your life, is romance dead?
There have been times, yes. Times when I have had to request that he put forth a little more effort…just as there have been times he has had to request that I put forth a little more effort in the sex department. We have one of those “chicken or the egg” situations where I need romance to feel sexual, and he needs sex to feel romantically connected…so if one of us drops the ball we can find ourselves in locking horns over who caused it and whose responsibility it is to fix it. Duh…the answer is both of us.