1. If married, had you slept with any of your wedding guests not including the person you married? How many of the guests had you slept with?
None. I moved to a new town for a job – which is where I met my husband, so most of my friends were new. My old friends were girlfriends…didn’t invite any guys I used to know.
2. Weddings again–Ever gone to a wedding and hooked up with another guest?
3. Do you get along with your partner’s family? Why or why not?
Yes, mostly. His mom and his sister have some pretty major social anxiety, which makes it hard to “socialize” with them. We don’t, for the most part, spend a ton of time with either of our families. But, we always do big events like birthdays and holidays. I find his dad easy to talk to. He also writes, so we have that in common.
4. Who in your romantic relationship is usually the first to apologize after a fight?
Him. I tend to pout and am less willing to admit my part in things until I’ve had time to think it through. I’m also, sadly…and problematically, not very good at apologizing anyway. It’s definitely a skill I could use some work on.
5. When was the last time you dreamed about your partner? What it a good dream or a nightmare?
A bad dream. I dreamed my husband left me (a few months ago). We were looking at buying a new, bigger house, and suddenly he began to stall on things. It brought back some PTSD from an earlier relationship that took a similar turn…right when our new lease was due, he decided the relationship was over and had no reason to offer for it. I guess I could feel the writing on the wall with my husband’s recent stand-offish behavior. And it turned out to be not so far from the eventual truth.
Bonus: Do you think that fate or destiny play a role in love?
No. I think it’s a romantic idea…and I love books and movies that play with it, but in reality, I believe we make choices that lead to other choices and and work hard to keep what we have or let it go. I also don’t believe there’s one perfect person for us. There are dozens. It’s just a matter of seeing them for what they are and meeting them at the right time in our lives. I don’t think it’s a matter of pre-design from some outside force that knows better than we do. We have more control over what happens to us that we sometimes like to admit.