“True confession consists of telling our deeds in such a way that our soul is changed in the telling of it.”
Welcome to my little slice of the internet. This is sort of like my closet, where I let my skeletons roam wild and free, sharing their dirty little secrets with whoever will listen.
Like many sex-bloggers, I’m a pretty private person in my day-to-day life. I live in a small town and am part of a community (socially and professionally) that would never accept me for the person that I’m allowed to be here.
So, dear readers, I thank you for the opportunity to share, and grow, and create, with you by my side. Just knowing that you are out there, lurking silently or commenting openly, makes me feel connected to you.
What I share here are true stories of my less-than-perfect (but nevertheless blessed) marriage and sex life (which is currently in the very early stages of deep recovery), commentary on sexual issues, erotic fiction and poetry, book discussions, as well as some amateur photography.
I’m not looking to be a professional writer, and sometimes I disappear for days or weeks at a time, because I work full time and have quite a few family demands. I am prone, as well, to depression, and when it hits, I’m pretty quiet around these parts. Be patient with me during those times. My writing sabbaticals usually allow my mind to stretch and grow new and better ideas, and when I come back to the keyboard, I am motivated and full of things to share.
What I’m working on for the New Year:
BRIGIT’S BOOK CLUB (Thursdays): It is winter now, cold and dark, but it’s a time when I begin to feel a bit more wiggle room in my schedule and have more time to write. It is also a time when I feel the call to stay indoors and read, so I’ll be continuing with BRIGIT’S BOOK CLUB. The idea for the “club” has changed since my first inclinations. I’d envisioned it being a real virtual book club, with online discussion, but since then, I’ve started an in-person book club, so my online version is simply a place for me to share what I’m reading and provide information that might help you to use the same books.
THE EROTIC JOURNAL CHALLENGE (Saturdays): At the end of November 2018, my husband and I (after 12 years of marriage) decided to separate. The separation lasted only a month, for a number of reasons, most important of which is that we simply love each other and have a difficult time being apart despite our problems. One thing I realized while we were separated is that I’ve pretty much lost complete contact with the sensual, erotic side of my identity. Not only is this unacceptable if our marriage is to flourish, but it is also unacceptable if my blog is to flourish (kind of hard to write erotica if one isn’t feeling erotic). So, I was inspired to start a new project: THE EROTIC JOURNAL CHALLENGE. Since I know the introspection I’ll be doing through this challenge will also be helpful and interesting for others to read and participate in, I’ll be opening it up and making it a regular part of this blog.
SINFUL SUNDAY: I’ve often submitted photos to Molly Moore’s Sinful Sunday, but this year, I asked Mr. D to take over the planning and design for each weekend’s shot. I did this for a few reasons. First, I’m tired of my point of view behind the lens. It’s hard to take your own picture and even harder to make it look different each time, which means, my photos are all starting to look somewhat the same (at least to me). Also, I have a tendency to hide behind the lens. I know how to cover up my “flaws” and I avoid showing parts of myself that I don’t like in “unflattering” ways. The thing is, I know that those flaws are not necessarily flaws and that what I think is unflattering may not be to someone else’s eye. Obviously this website shares a certain polished version of truth, both in words and in image, but I don’t want my images to be dishonest, and I feel that by holding back those parts I don’t necessarily love, I am also stunting my own self-acceptance growth. So, here goes nothing…Mr. D, the camera is yours.
SUPPORTING OTHER WRITERS: I want to make a point, also, of supporting other sex bloggers as much as I can through involvement in their memes (like those listed below in the “Games I Play” section”) and sharing content I love through social media (S.O.S.S. and what I tag #coffeerotica — my weekend & vacation morning favorite reads). This also means I’m promising to do a better job of commenting and interacting via Twitter, following my favorite writers, and adding a blogroll to this site.
I will NOT be doing SMUT MARATHON this year, but I encourage any writer to try it at least once. Last year, it just took too much of my writing energy and got in the way of keeping up any sort of blogging routine.
If you have ideas for my writing, suggestions, questions, or just want to drop me a line, please do! I look forward to hearing from you.
And as always, thanks for being here. Your presence is appreciated.